I dont like parties, nightclubs and things like that. (Actually never been to a nightclub apart from one occasion where I wasasked to go with a young lady to see a Christian band but I couldn't stay and and to go out as it was way to noisy!
But this often posed a problem at Christmas times because I would not go to any of the partys that various works places wanted me to go. The last place I worked did give me the greatest compliament as they asked me what sort of places I liked for their next staff outing as the 12-15 staff wanted to do something that included me. I appreciated that even though we never did get to do it. I said I liked beaches, castles and things like that, and they suggested a beach party barbaque type gathering.. While I am not really into some barbaque foods, I did like that idea as if any type of party would work, an open air party with not too many people where it is not too noisy (If it is loud at least the noise does not echo on walls inside a building!) While partys are not my "Thing", I would enjoy being with them in that setting as if it got too much I could find a place on my own to de-stress and then come back when I am ready! Or I could sit back a bit and be part of it without being in the middle of things if that makes sense? And while in one way I long to be a part of things like "Normal people" are, but I have found that it is rare to make friends enough... But an outside beach enviroment feels like no pressure. An those guys I worked with were decent guys. We were all a bit different to start with working there due to the nature of the work. I was told by someone who was autistic and worked in another store in a city when I was working in another store in the next town who was surprized I was not autistic (I didn't know back then that I was.. He said 84% (I believe that is the figure he said) of those who specialized in the type of job that I did and he did were on the spectrum as the job suited autistic people well. Sadly due to sustained workplace abuse I kept hitting burnout there, and this other smaller store in a smaller town I went to work for where the staff treated me with care the mental damage of doing that same type of work hit me..So even though I was treated exceptionally well and was respected, I hit another few burnouts worse than before. Though the very first one I hit was a result of stopping all forms of stimming, but was before the jobs I had in that company. But I was really touched when they wanted to do something that appreciated me for who I was!
But I love quiet scenic places to explore! Or maybe rides on my bike (Need to get back into cycling again), or drives in my car I call Mitsi. I LOVE Mitsi! :D