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What to do in the holidays and at weekends

jrandall10

Hey everyone, hope you are all ok. I have a few questions and need some advice.

Our daughter is six but a bit behind for her age. She has ASD and SPD, she doesn't find toys very interesting and won't stay at an activity for very long. I am a bit of a naughty mummy and I like to spoil her cause she loves the idea of toys and having them but not not that interested in playing with them. How can we help her to play? When we try to play she gets overstimulated very easily and it kinda puts you off. She loves to watch tele but this overstimulates her too much too even going out to the park or swimming overstimulates. We are desperate, it's so hard to keep her busy all day. I was thinking of making her a choosing board, what does others think? Also do you think we should reward her to play? Maybe she has too much choice.

thx in advance for your help and advice xx

  • I have a few ideas you can try.

    Maybe to tell her the idea of toys. If she is getting confused with toys maybe she does not realise what she is suposed to do with them. you said she is only 6 and behind her age and maybe this is not something she has lernt all of yet-so she oviously has the idea of that toys are good things to have but maybe not the idea of why? Can you some how teach her that the toys she likes having can be to play with?

     For being overstimulated maybe think about what toys she has, could you get her toys that are less stimulating?  Their are some great special needs toys about if you look for them-at the moment I pertially like these lights I have. Their are a few different ones like that if I make a noise it lights up, or another one lights up from movement. Simpler than those designed for NT children with average develompent and understading-but perfectly fun when I want to be in my own world even for a 17 year old! 

    You do not mention a nursery, or school of any kind but I would assume that at 6 she goes to school.  How does she get on there? I do not know about school at that age but they basically play quite a lot, or deffinatly at nursery if she went  to one-how did she manage there? what helped her?  Could you find out?  Also if she does go to a school ask the techers for advice to help you? maybe try to link things with school and home so can she have the toys she likes at school at home?  I know I do not know the situation, so you might have to adapt this one but I hope you get the idea I mean. 

    Their is a lot about overstimulation in what you have writen. Could you think about helping her to deal with that?  you do not say overstimuation from what but I would assume either sound or light (or both, of course can be touch or something else too) you can over time reduce sensitivity to things, very gradually, or the length of time she can manage with e.g. noise at a certan volume-all of these will help her fit in when she is older if she can manage things more like anyone else would. So I would sugest trying to make her able to deal with it better. I use both earphones and sunglases a lot! personally I see no problem with it, it's only the opposite to someone with partially hearing wearing a hearing aid, just I hear too much so I reduce it.  I can understnad you may not want it forever but my opinion is if it helps then use it! 

    I think a chosing board would be a good idea. I have never had one but I assume it's pictures of different activities and she says what she wants to do. Maybe you could use it with a timeline or schedule. E.g if she has chose three things to do in the day then put them to a schedule so she knows what she should do and for how long.  All I would say is encourage her to do diferent things, so she is not sat down or in the same room all the day. Like even if it is 1-play with ... toy in her bedroom. then lunch time then 2 might be something in a living room. so she can also clearly tell it is different things.   Make it as simple as possible to understand and lots of pictures :)  
    Just something I found out about me recently-white bacgrounds are really bad for me too see being oversensitive it is too bright-I now have color overlays and use them for everything (unless I can get teachers to print on color paper for me) So maybe if she is struggling do these things on  a less bright colour. I am told a pale blue is the most common colour people use other than white so might be one to start at but thier is a test so you try every colour and get the right one to you-not sure if it is for people that young or not but might be something to think about or look at more.  

    I hope some of this helps. If you have any questions then you can ask and I will try to help, also if you do not understnad what I mean then ask, I know I am not always good at explaing things.  
    Amy