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Plans for 2024.

Luna

Do you have anything planned for the 2024??? If so, whether it's big or small, please feel free to share your plans here. It might inspire me to do something cool next year rather than just sit here in my anxieties.

My mind is usually racing with so much it's hard to sit down and plan certain things to do. I usually go with the flow, let my mind just take me to A-B, and take the rough with the smooth as it happens. One thing I definitely intend to do is get back to my volunteering, hopefully mid January if possible, but only time will tell if that's actually going to happen. I don't want to let this opportunity escape me so I need to be strong, if possible.
As for the rest of the year I really don't know what I'm going to be doing. Normally I enter the new year thinking oh god here we go again but this time I'm hoping I'll start the new year with a more positive mindset - positive thinking leads to good things, I'm told, so here's hoping this will be the case for me.
Another thing I wouldn't mind improving next year is my anxiety as it will normally be affecting me on a daily basis and that's unpleasant at the best of times. A little less anxiety would be nice...
But that's a tall order, so I won't get my hopes up. I want to try some new meditation, though I'm doing this before the new year. 
First, I need to try and get through Xmas. Tomorrow I've got all the immediate and extended family coming over, yikes it's going to be a long couple of days. Uncle Gene will get drunk as usual, my little cousins will be running around crazily - and loudly! - and the music will be louder than normal.
*sobs*
My parents are so good though, they tell people to be mindful of my autism and not to trigger me which I appreciate on so many levels but most people don't really listen.
Roll on the new year please....
Whoops, oh dear that turned in to another ramble. Sorry!! 
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  • I don't normally set arbitrary goals for the years especially since I beat myself up if I don't reach them but I'm going to set myself some loose goals for the year with hopefully some of them being attainable. Some of these may seem small and more likely (but I have already put off for months) and others are a bit trickier but, I've got all year, maybe I'll get there.

    1) Start & finish applying for PIP / Appealing if I don't get it etc. The process sounds overwhelming and at the very end I might not even actually get it but my goal isn't especially to get it (obviously that would be ideal though), but that's not something in my control and its best to set goals you can control. All I can control is my attempt to apply, go through the process etc. so that is my goal.

    2) Coming off from that one, I want to work on seeing life and setting goals for myself from the perspective of what I can control, what I can do and not dwell so much on things that I have no control over. You could set a goal to, for example, do a specific marathon event and then suddenly the marathon gets callied off... shouldn't mean failure right? But sadly if I don't accomplish what I want to accomplish even through no fault of my own I see it as my own failure, I take responsibility for everything that goes wrong but sadly that never goes the other way as I dismiss my own successes. Think it's an important perspective shift to work on.

    3) Get out more, easier said than done but I'd really like to try and go to places. Even if it's just visiting one place a month for the year. Coupled with this I want to make a visit to my GP at some point regarding my diagnosis and I'd also like to visit my bank branch before it closes to sort out some issues setting up my online banking (all I did is write my password down incorrectly, or accidentally did caps lock, it's a small thing but I've been putting it off months). Slow and steady, build myself up to doing just one simple journey or task a month. Maybe visit a supermarket and simply buy a packet of biscuits, small steps.

    4) Find some consistent job I can do, at the moment I'm on a zero hour contract working just weekends. They're only 5 hour shifts which is about the most I can manage in one day (especially because I don't take lunch) and being only 2 days it's not a reliable income at all especially being zero hours I could end up getting none one week and what if they just don't keep me on much longer after the Christmas boom.

    5) Exercise, over the last year I did already make progress on this in my daily routine but this year I want to step it up a bit more.

    6) Find time for hobbies, living with other people but spending all your time at home means very few opportunities for alone time. Hopefully I can push myself to give more time for me and that might help in finding me too.

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  • I don't normally set arbitrary goals for the years especially since I beat myself up if I don't reach them but I'm going to set myself some loose goals for the year with hopefully some of them being attainable. Some of these may seem small and more likely (but I have already put off for months) and others are a bit trickier but, I've got all year, maybe I'll get there.

    1) Start & finish applying for PIP / Appealing if I don't get it etc. The process sounds overwhelming and at the very end I might not even actually get it but my goal isn't especially to get it (obviously that would be ideal though), but that's not something in my control and its best to set goals you can control. All I can control is my attempt to apply, go through the process etc. so that is my goal.

    2) Coming off from that one, I want to work on seeing life and setting goals for myself from the perspective of what I can control, what I can do and not dwell so much on things that I have no control over. You could set a goal to, for example, do a specific marathon event and then suddenly the marathon gets callied off... shouldn't mean failure right? But sadly if I don't accomplish what I want to accomplish even through no fault of my own I see it as my own failure, I take responsibility for everything that goes wrong but sadly that never goes the other way as I dismiss my own successes. Think it's an important perspective shift to work on.

    3) Get out more, easier said than done but I'd really like to try and go to places. Even if it's just visiting one place a month for the year. Coupled with this I want to make a visit to my GP at some point regarding my diagnosis and I'd also like to visit my bank branch before it closes to sort out some issues setting up my online banking (all I did is write my password down incorrectly, or accidentally did caps lock, it's a small thing but I've been putting it off months). Slow and steady, build myself up to doing just one simple journey or task a month. Maybe visit a supermarket and simply buy a packet of biscuits, small steps.

    4) Find some consistent job I can do, at the moment I'm on a zero hour contract working just weekends. They're only 5 hour shifts which is about the most I can manage in one day (especially because I don't take lunch) and being only 2 days it's not a reliable income at all especially being zero hours I could end up getting none one week and what if they just don't keep me on much longer after the Christmas boom.

    5) Exercise, over the last year I did already make progress on this in my daily routine but this year I want to step it up a bit more.

    6) Find time for hobbies, living with other people but spending all your time at home means very few opportunities for alone time. Hopefully I can push myself to give more time for me and that might help in finding me too.

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