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I wish I could stop "wallowing in it"

Eponine

I wish we weren't expected to be cheerful and grateful all the time.

I wish I could stop comparing myself to others.

If I ever feel unhappy, I'm told to "stop wallowing in it", "stop upsetting myself", "everyone gets days like this, but most of us rise above it", "there are millions worse off" etc. etc. etc. But I can't help it. I hate that I feel like this, I feel so weak and stupid, but it's so painful; what am I supposed to do? I hate that my younger sister is slim and beautiful and clever and a better singer than me and has hundreds more people on her side than I do on mine. I hate the vile comments people make to me in the school corridors about the way I look. I thought it had stopped but clearly it hasn't. I know I'll be told to report them but reporting them won't change what they've said. I wish they knew just how much it hurts me - then they'd be punished with guilt.

I feel so alone. Everyone around me has each other. I don't want to be a socialite...I just want to be the person who is one. And I'd like to be good looking, as shallow as that is. Do you see what I mean?

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  • It's hard to answer without knowing all the facts, for example I once knew this girl who self harmed because she thought she was overweight and ugly - but she wasn't.

    The most important person in the world is yourself, even if you are 20 stones in weight, spotty and wear glasses and you are not happy with your physical image then there are many things you can do to improve it.

    Bullies are people who pick on others who they see as being weaker than themselves. I was bullied for over a year by someone who kept taking my money, but one day I flipped and tore into him like a madman - he never bullied me again. The bullying you are experiencing is more psychological abuse, if you are like you say, bigger than these bullies then you have nothing to fear, I bet individually they are scared of you more than you are of them, they are only brave enough to make comments behind your back while they are in a gang.

    You have to make a decision whether or not you are going to accept all these sneaky comments or do something about them.

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  • It's hard to answer without knowing all the facts, for example I once knew this girl who self harmed because she thought she was overweight and ugly - but she wasn't.

    The most important person in the world is yourself, even if you are 20 stones in weight, spotty and wear glasses and you are not happy with your physical image then there are many things you can do to improve it.

    Bullies are people who pick on others who they see as being weaker than themselves. I was bullied for over a year by someone who kept taking my money, but one day I flipped and tore into him like a madman - he never bullied me again. The bullying you are experiencing is more psychological abuse, if you are like you say, bigger than these bullies then you have nothing to fear, I bet individually they are scared of you more than you are of them, they are only brave enough to make comments behind your back while they are in a gang.

    You have to make a decision whether or not you are going to accept all these sneaky comments or do something about them.

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