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Being rejected by a friend after unmasking/rejected by a friend because of needs

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Hello.

So, I've recently been rejected by a very close friend of mine, and it seems that it was either because I'd recently unmasked in front of said friend, or because of my autistic and mental health needs in general. Has anyone else experienced this or something like it? If so, how did you deal with this?

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  • dont have any friends lol

    but i remember one time i thought i had friends in primary school but by the time i joined high school i realised they were not my friends and were infact bullies.

    then i lucked out and got friends somehow in high school but they all left, one of them said he cant be friends anymore as i attract too many bullies and he gets bullied. was sad times but looking back it makes me think of every other human as weak and pathetic unable to cope with a tiny portion of what i had to cope with lol then the covid lockdowns made me laugh at the weakness of everyone else too as just a few month of lockdown and isolation made everyone claim to be mentally ill? oh god that made me laugh so much and view every other human beneath me. in the end you see i had the last laugh against this society and proven the lonely outcast one is stronger.

  • in reply to Caelus

    If there’s one thing I’ve learned about the diagnosis, that I received this year, it’s that being an outcast and being autistic are two totally different things.
    I’ve been both outcast and autist, outcasts are defined I think by being cast ‘out’, whereas being autistic makes you part of a small but determine people..

    Society would have us believe we are outcasts but we are not, they would have us believe that there is one lane, but there is not. I have the last laugh firstly because of your point, but secondly because despite their efforts, we have ended up laughing as one.

  • in reply to DeSpereaux

    It's just majority rule, essentially, there are more of them, than there are of us. A large majority, conversely, may often perceive itself to be insecure, because the greater the number, the more difficult it is to maintain cohesion. 

    Rejection of anything 'other' is the most obvious strategy. 

    But we're not the only people to stand outside of the herd, anyone nonconforming gets the same response. 

    We can choose whether to see ourselves as outsiders, depending on whether we define ourselves in relation to the herd - or not. 

  • in reply to DeSpereaux

    Hmm... Oh dear! 

    It's a journey of discovery...? 

    Maybe with a few potholes and sludgy puddles along the way. . Joy

    But at least you know what's good now! Raised hands

  • in reply to Pegg

    Yes.. vary.. ughh..Sweat smile

    I have spent the last four years processing all the variance I can find in free-from foods, I think I’ve got an eye for what is good as well as what is bad, at great cost at times..Nauseated face

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