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davek75

hi im david i have aspergers syndrome, i find it hard to socialise and find myself alienated and alone...

i was first diagnosed at 13 and am now 38... i still find it hard to communicate even after living with aspergers for all this time... i stammer when i talk and very rarely give eye contact which often makes people believe im not listening or interested in what there saying...

anyone else out there having the same issues or is it just me.... :(

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  • Hi Dave,

    you have an amazing ability if you can take apart and rebuild computers! You could get a job doing that if you wanted. Have you met other people interested in computer hardware, etc? Or maybe take a course to get certified in computer hardware? 

    I too have trouble in social situations and hate making eye contact with people. I feel scared that if we make eye contact they will be able to see right through me and see how messed up I am.

    what I have taught myself to do to survive in the world and social situations is ask other people about themselves as soon as I meet someone. the vast majority of people love talking about themselves! Just keep asking questions, keep them talking about themselves and their life, and they never get time to ask about you.

    it has worked for me over and over. I can survive social situations for short periods doing that, and no one ever learns too much about me. As long as I keep a defensive wall up around me and don't reveal too much about myself, I seem to be able to get through it.

    it is hard work though and very tiring!

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  • Hi Dave,

    you have an amazing ability if you can take apart and rebuild computers! You could get a job doing that if you wanted. Have you met other people interested in computer hardware, etc? Or maybe take a course to get certified in computer hardware? 

    I too have trouble in social situations and hate making eye contact with people. I feel scared that if we make eye contact they will be able to see right through me and see how messed up I am.

    what I have taught myself to do to survive in the world and social situations is ask other people about themselves as soon as I meet someone. the vast majority of people love talking about themselves! Just keep asking questions, keep them talking about themselves and their life, and they never get time to ask about you.

    it has worked for me over and over. I can survive social situations for short periods doing that, and no one ever learns too much about me. As long as I keep a defensive wall up around me and don't reveal too much about myself, I seem to be able to get through it.

    it is hard work though and very tiring!

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