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davek75

hi im david i have aspergers syndrome, i find it hard to socialise and find myself alienated and alone...

i was first diagnosed at 13 and am now 38... i still find it hard to communicate even after living with aspergers for all this time... i stammer when i talk and very rarely give eye contact which often makes people believe im not listening or interested in what there saying...

anyone else out there having the same issues or is it just me.... :(

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  • Hi.  Do you have any special interests?  Maybe joining a club of like minded individuals may help.  Although gyms and swimming pools can seem daunting, they do have quiet periods where you can get to know members over time and gradually get to know people.  Volunteering is also a good avenue to look into.  It doesn't have to be people focused but again you could build up to helping out in other areas as your confidence grows.  It is always hard taking that first step, even for NT's.  So take it slowly.

    My sons also struggle with eye contact and the youngest will stammer when faced with situations where he needs to make a choice.  

    It may help other people if you tell them that you are listening but that you find it hard to make eye contact, that way they are not making incorrect assumptions and it may help you relax a bit more.

    Hope this helps.

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  • Hi.  Do you have any special interests?  Maybe joining a club of like minded individuals may help.  Although gyms and swimming pools can seem daunting, they do have quiet periods where you can get to know members over time and gradually get to know people.  Volunteering is also a good avenue to look into.  It doesn't have to be people focused but again you could build up to helping out in other areas as your confidence grows.  It is always hard taking that first step, even for NT's.  So take it slowly.

    My sons also struggle with eye contact and the youngest will stammer when faced with situations where he needs to make a choice.  

    It may help other people if you tell them that you are listening but that you find it hard to make eye contact, that way they are not making incorrect assumptions and it may help you relax a bit more.

    Hope this helps.

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