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Don't understand.

Robert124

I often have difficulty understanding human behaviour.

This thread is about travelling by bus.

A while ago I mentioned that I didn't understand why some people never rang the bell on the bus when they wanted to stop a bus and get off, instead they went up to the bus driver and said, "next stop please."  Is this a form of etiquette that I'm unfamiliar with?

Now I had problems with a day trip by coach.  The driver insisted that everyone say their name verbally to him so he can check his printed list.  He refused to look at our tickets or boarding passes, which have our names printed on them, he kept saying, "you must tell me your name", someone showed him a ticket, the driver told him that he can't look at it because it would just confuse him, and insisted they they say their name to him.

Is this another form of etiquette?  

I thought it would make more sense to check the printed name on the ticket with the printed names on his list.  Because speaking a name can cause confusion with unusual names and how they're pronounced.

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  • Robert124 said:
    when they wanted to stop a bus and get off, instead they went up to the bus driver and said, "next stop please."  Is this a form of etiquette that I'm unfamiliar with?

    There is no single form of etiquette for these situaitons - some people will ring the bell, some will just stand in plain view of the driver expecting him to notice and some will say something to the driver ("next one please mate", "this one's mine" etc).

    Robert124 said:
    The driver insisted that everyone say their name verbally to him so he can check his printed list. 

    It is possible the driver had a disability like dyslexia so he could not read the name correctly, or his eyesight wasn't great for reading small print on the ticket (but the list was large print) - the key thing here is that the driver is the person in command and you need to follow his reasonable instructions.

    If you can't speak then you need to inform him of this in some way - a sunflower lanyard for example or a card saying "I'm non verbal" will do the trick and he will then have to deal with whatever issue he has and try to match the names.

    It is not etiquette here, just a case of you not understanding that you are supposed to follow instructions from the person in charge.

  • in reply to Iain

    It could be that he was wearing bifocal or distance glasses which were good for driving,but not for print. Either that or he might not be able to read a name and "hold" it in working memory long enough to check it ... auditory information is processed differently from text. One can only speculate ...

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  • in reply to Iain

    It could be that he was wearing bifocal or distance glasses which were good for driving,but not for print. Either that or he might not be able to read a name and "hold" it in working memory long enough to check it ... auditory information is processed differently from text. One can only speculate ...

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