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Please give me feedback on early Figma mockups for an for Friendship Maintenance for Autistic Individuals

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  • I don’t really like the term ‘maintaining friendships ‘ . It makes it sound like hard work. In my experience true friendships don’t need conscious maintaining. They just are. If it feels like i have to make a big effort or mask it’s usually just not right. My friends and I have no expectations of how often to be in touch or see each other - but this doesn’t stop us from being close. Most of my friends  are neurodivergent too and I think that might make things easier. 
    what I do find difficult is to find right balance of seeing people when I am exhausted or in state of burnout. I am now much more self aware and allow myself to retreat if necessary but sometimes pushing myself a little is good. 
    the hard thing I find is to meet the right people.

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    Ann :) said:
    I don’t really like the term ‘maintaining friendships ‘ . It makes it sound like hard work

    Exactly! Friendships are easy to maintain when we find our own tribe, like in this autistic community!

  • in reply to Ausomely Autistic

    No it’s a lot of work in my experience. Particularly if you’re a different kind of autistic person from the kind of autistic person you’re trying to stay friends with. Of the handful of people I’m still friends with A lot of them are neuro divergent but they’re also typically highly introverted. Or at least that’s how they behave nowadays they were much more extroverted in their younger years. It seems transitioning from their twenties to their 30s has been a path that led to introversion. And that makes trying to stay connected to them really difficult because we both have really different expectations and aspirations as to how we connect with others.

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  • in reply to Ausomely Autistic

    No it’s a lot of work in my experience. Particularly if you’re a different kind of autistic person from the kind of autistic person you’re trying to stay friends with. Of the handful of people I’m still friends with A lot of them are neuro divergent but they’re also typically highly introverted. Or at least that’s how they behave nowadays they were much more extroverted in their younger years. It seems transitioning from their twenties to their 30s has been a path that led to introversion. And that makes trying to stay connected to them really difficult because we both have really different expectations and aspirations as to how we connect with others.

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