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Traumatised from meltdowns and their aftermath.

Fen

Hi Guy, i’m dreadfully sorry to constantly bothering everyone, i’m just really struggling at the moment. 

im currently on holiday and away from home and finding all the changes hard which has left me having meltdowns. Unfortunately i don’t think my family appreciated how distressing this is for an autistic and get fed up with my constant dramas and get quite short with me. 

this reaction to my meltdowns has left me feeling quite scared of having them again ,as i feel that i’m silly and pathetic for having them (i know that isn’t how they want me to feel but that is how it makes me feel)  

after my last meltdown of yesterday, i’ve been teary and sad all morning as i am traumatised from constantly having frustration towards me and be told i need to learn to deal with it myself (even though i was only diagnosed 10 days ago and i’m still learning myself) when i have meltdowns. I don’t know how to explain to them their approach is actually making things worse as they just get offended. 

i have in the meantime contacted my pycolgist but she’s on holiday and i feel bad for disturbing her and don’t know if she will reply 

I feel quite low and in a rut? Does anyone have any advice ? 

  • in reply to Pegg

    thank you so much for being there Blush

  • Hi Fen

    I'm sorry that you're having a tough time. I think many people here would agree that holidays can be challenging. What happens when you're away from your usual environment is unpredictable, that's the problem. Your usual routines may be disrupted,, which can be very stressful. I think that having to cope with the unexpected for days on end can be difficult and exhausting. Meltdowns are also exhausting, others don't always recognize how much they take out of you. 

    I should think many here have experienced holiday meltdowns, me included - you're not alone. Do you know what might help you? I appreciate you might not, but if there's anything you can think of would you be able to communicate it to your family? I know that can be hard too. 

    Sometimes people seem annoyed with us when we have meltdowns because they don't understand or know what to do to help. Also, for NTs, holidays are a time to ditch their usual responsibilities and have fun, so unless they understand what's happening, they can find the idea of somebody not enjoying a holiday difficult. 

    I hope that you feel better today. Don't worry about posting here, I haven't been here long myself but can see that it's a very supportive community, people will always have time for you here. Slight smile