I will have to do a lot of explaining. I had this friend called Helen and I thought we were quite good friends. Then she started cancelling on me (which REALLY stresses me out) not responding to my messages, and just pretty much stopped talking to me altogether. I lent her 2 things to help her with her job (which I helped her A LOT with - because I know about EYFS and she knew nothing) and I found one in the office at work one day which I suppose was her idea of returning it to me (why did she not give it to me in person and say thank you for lending it to me? that's what *I* would do I learnt manners) and she still has the other thing. I thought maybe she was just ignoring friends because she has a boyfriend but I talked to Rachel who we both know and she was still in touch with her, so it is just me she's dumped. As a friend. I want the other thing I lent her back. My support worker said I should send a polite (she emphasised polite) message asking for it back. But I'm so angry with her I want to send her a text telling her she's a really horrible friend and stupid horrible rude person and I hate her. I want HER to feel as upset as I did. (I was much more upset than this when it first started happening). Do NTs just push their feelings aside and send polite messages? Is that what I should do? Am I supposed to completely ignore how I feel?
