Hogging the forums

Please, please tell me I'm being paranoid... but only if you actually think that I am...

During the early days of being a newbie in the NAS Community, I was fairly active in the forums. Back then, I think I was a daily visitor and would literally spend hours at a time here.

For a whole host of different reasons, I then found that my visits were less frequent. Sometimes I would pop my head in for a flying visit that lasted a matter of minutes, and sometimes I would stick around a while longer.

Okay Sparkly, stop beating around the bush and get to the point!

For the first time in a very long time, I have been rather active on these forums. At this precise moment, I think it must have been a good 12 hours since I signed in, and I feel somewhat embarrassed.

Why?

Because when I look at the main forum pages, there are rather a lot of discussions where the last person to comment has been me, thus resulting in causing me to feel as though I've been hogging the forums.

I imagine some of the regular crowd signing in and thinking, "Flipping Heck! Is Sparkly turning into her mother and suffering from a bad case of verbal diarrhea? She's barely said a word for weeks on end, and now she won't stop talking!"

There are private conversations amongst the regular crowd... "Hey, just to let you know that Sparkly's active. If you attempt to engage her in conversation, there's a good chance that you will struggle to get a word in edgeways."

Sparkly finds herself thinking if this is what currently hibernating member Steven meant when he once spoke about The Curse of SparklyLaughing

For the record, this post of mine isn't intended to be taken seriously. Although I do feel as though I've been hogging the forums during the past however many hours, I'm not going to lose sleep worrying myself into an anxious state about it. However, if any of you feel compelled to tell me that I am not being paranoid, then please feel free to form an orderly queue. Yes, I'm joking, which is something I've not really done on these forums for quite some time.

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  • "The curse of Sparkly"?? 

    Sounds like a bit of "gaslighting" going on there to me, and if it's the member I am thinking of, it can very safely be ignored. 

    But I get that feeling myself, when I see my name following a load of posts and wonder am I doing too much of this?

    Do you ever look at my name and think Forum hog? (I can take it if you say yes!)

    Even when the "objectionable people" (or those who find me objectionable) post, it's still a degree better than having a silent forum where no one has anything to say..

  • Just to say, without intending undermine the validity of your opinion about Steven, that I'm 100% certain Sparkly would disagree that he would ever gaslight her. I've only ever seen him treat her with total respect, and some very mild teasing that fitted with a brief period of increased 'bants' we had on the forum. 

    Normally I wouldn't speak on someone else's behalf (only that in this case I'm certain Sparkly would want Steven defended, and will likely politley/diplomatically do so herself when she sees your post), so maybe I should just put my own opinion forward instead: the last thing Steven is is one of life's gaslighters. I don't see that in him at all. I respect your right to hold a different opinion, and I hope you'll be content to agree to disagree without falling out with me over it. 

    Wishing you a good weekend, I-Sperg. 

  • - Just to let you know that I managed to find the original discussion that resulted in The Curse of Sparkly comment, and found myself having a good laugh at it all over again as I read the various comments. Grin

    Yes, you're absolutely right in thinking I would disagree with the notion of Steven gaslighting me, or indeed anyone else.

  • Reading this bit of the thread, suggests to me that I have seriously misjudged someone. 

    Now, I've been doing a LOT of work on developing better metrics for evaluating people and their motives for quite a while now, and I thought I was getting pretty darn good at it, based on results over the last few years, BUT if a handful of decent posters step up to tell me, essentially, that I am wrongheaded about someone  then I'd be a fool not to reconsider my position. 

    That WILL take some time, but if it turns out that when the process id done, that I have (I don't know what the correct word is, so I'll make one up) misethicalised Steven causing me to mist treat him, he'll get an apology, and I'll improve my "game". 

    I don't like being on the receiving end of people making snap judgements incorrectly about me, and I sure don't want to be handing it out myself.

    Do As You Would Be Done By. or Love thy neighbour as thyself is the golden rule, we break it at our peril.

  • Ah, memory lane. Really hope he's doing OK. 

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  • Reading this bit of the thread, suggests to me that I have seriously misjudged someone. 

    Now, I've been doing a LOT of work on developing better metrics for evaluating people and their motives for quite a while now, and I thought I was getting pretty darn good at it, based on results over the last few years, BUT if a handful of decent posters step up to tell me, essentially, that I am wrongheaded about someone  then I'd be a fool not to reconsider my position. 

    That WILL take some time, but if it turns out that when the process id done, that I have (I don't know what the correct word is, so I'll make one up) misethicalised Steven causing me to mist treat him, he'll get an apology, and I'll improve my "game". 

    I don't like being on the receiving end of people making snap judgements incorrectly about me, and I sure don't want to be handing it out myself.

    Do As You Would Be Done By. or Love thy neighbour as thyself is the golden rule, we break it at our peril.