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How do you handle random people stopping and talking to u?

AutisticDisneyFan

Asking because this happens to me a lot when I'm out walking my dog.

People stop and talk to me mostly about her (my dog)

But I never no what to say lol Laughing 

My brain temporarily shuts down and I'm left feeling like I've just been hit in the face Face palm♀️ Eyes 

Usually I go "Yeah she's nice int she" and then pretend to call my mum and leave lol Rofl 

Same thing happens if I go in the shops for butter and milk for mum and dad. Cashier always talks which is polite I guess but it awkward for me.

Everything I answer is one word like "yes" but each answer lol LaughingLaughing 

I've never once looked at a random person and thought I'm gonna stop and talk to her lol Rofl

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  • AutisticDisneyFan said:
    Asking because this happens to me a lot when I'm out walking my dog.

    You need to develop some scripting skills because the behaviour you are seeing is classic NT social behaviour and is never going to go away. Best to have a few responses on hand to fend off these meetings if that is your objective.

    Develop and rehears a few pleasantries that meet the social interaction and also give you a quick way out.

    So is somebody says "that is a beautiful dog, is it yours?" then say:

    "she is an amazing dog, thank you, but she really needs to go to the toilet so I've got to rush to get her to the park before we have an accident. Goodbye"

    For the BT openreach, car delivery stuff, don't worry about the social aspects of it and stick to the facts. Assume they haven't done their research and give them the information you have. That is something most of us autists are good at is information.

    There is no need for niceties as the asked for the info and it is not going to cost you anything to give.

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  • AutisticDisneyFan said:
    Asking because this happens to me a lot when I'm out walking my dog.

    You need to develop some scripting skills because the behaviour you are seeing is classic NT social behaviour and is never going to go away. Best to have a few responses on hand to fend off these meetings if that is your objective.

    Develop and rehears a few pleasantries that meet the social interaction and also give you a quick way out.

    So is somebody says "that is a beautiful dog, is it yours?" then say:

    "she is an amazing dog, thank you, but she really needs to go to the toilet so I've got to rush to get her to the park before we have an accident. Goodbye"

    For the BT openreach, car delivery stuff, don't worry about the social aspects of it and stick to the facts. Assume they haven't done their research and give them the information you have. That is something most of us autists are good at is information.

    There is no need for niceties as the asked for the info and it is not going to cost you anything to give.

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  • in reply to Iain

    Its bad and I feel bad cause I feel rude but it isnt rudeness I just don’t no what to say and how to react when people talk to me. I spend most of my time trying to work out to say but end up with “yes” and “nos” which is plain and sounds rude

    If people could see how hard I try to make a convo theyd understand but sadly Im literally the only one who gets it. My mum thinks I’m being rude some times. I’m not its just I cant put things in to words

    Thx tho this is something Ill try to work on and get better at doing

  • in reply to Iain
    Iain said:
    "she is an amazing dog, thank you, but she really needs to go to the toilet so I've got to rush to get her to the park before we have an accident. Goodbye"

    Idk who has that kind of arrangement with their dog. It doesn't really matter whether they go in the street or in the park.