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My 23yr old son diagnosed with autism and add

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I really need some advice...my son is amazing but he has some issues; stealing, he's been spying on me taking indecent pics, he's getting very controlling with me... I've been trying to get some therapy for him but it's so limited to what's out there, I'm worried about him so so much, his actions if not dealt with could end him up in a lot of trouble.. I want to understand him and help him I just don't know what to do...

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  • I normaly wouldn't suggest this, but your situation sounds very extreme so the equally extreme response is called for in this instance. If he is taking indecent photos of you that is very alarming and I'd see if you can get a local member of the constabularly, not to do anything official, but give him the hardline straight talk, because it's clear he doesn't respect the privacy and autonomy of women if he can't even respect the privacy of his own mother. He needs to know this is a line he does not cross without consequences, and he needs to hear it from a man with authority because he clearly doesn't respect you enough to hear it from you or another woman.

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  • I normaly wouldn't suggest this, but your situation sounds very extreme so the equally extreme response is called for in this instance. If he is taking indecent photos of you that is very alarming and I'd see if you can get a local member of the constabularly, not to do anything official, but give him the hardline straight talk, because it's clear he doesn't respect the privacy and autonomy of women if he can't even respect the privacy of his own mother. He needs to know this is a line he does not cross without consequences, and he needs to hear it from a man with authority because he clearly doesn't respect you enough to hear it from you or another woman.

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  • in reply to 🐝 Bees 🐝 (they/them) Autism resources in bio #stoptheshock #NothingAboutUsWithoutUs
    🐝 Bees 🐝 (they/them) Autism resources in bio #stoptheshock #NothingAboutUsWithoutUs said:
    see if you can get a local member of the constabularly, not to do anything official, but give him the hardline straight talk

    Sound advice - he is probably adopting some of these behaviours as "special interests" now so breaking them will take a shock of some kind, and a representative of the law is a great way to bring that while the is still in its early stages.

    Autists are good at following rules when we are certain of them and they make sense to us - having an officer explain the rules and the implications of breaking them (eg taken away to prison where he will be beaten up for being weak, raped for being young and suffering much abuse for not understanding the unspoken rules of prison) will really get through to him.

    Therapy will be expensive or hard to find on the NHS - if he has a formal diagnosis then you can maybe speak to his GP and see what they can recommend.

    Is he over 18? If not you may still have some options open to you on the NHS, but if he is older then he is an adult and probably needs to do this himself - a tricky one there.