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Do you think your parents are or were autistic?

Jedi

I've read that they think autism might be hereditary. Have you seen any signs of it in your parents or other members of your family? My dad shows little signs of being autistic but my mum 100% has autism. I've noticed the following with her

* Doesn't make eye contact.

* Has never given hugs or liked to be touched.

* Always wore the same clothes.

* Cooked the same foods.

* Walked the same routes.

* Kept conversations short.

* Constantly suffering from abdominal discomfort.

* Flaps her hands.

* Remarkably childlike.

* Obsessive nature.

I share the majority of the above with my mum. We're very alike in so many ways. She isn't diagnosed but I'm hoping one day they will assess her. Currently, because of an obsession with fire and accidentally setting the house on fire my mum is serving a hospital order but I'm hoping she will be home soon and then we can look at getting her diagnosed. It was such a positive experience for me I'm hoping it will be the same for my mum.

I have two sisters but they don't seem to be autistic. Curious to know who is or might be in your own family.

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  • Not really. My mother had really good social skills, like really good, she was very good at persuading people to do things. She was certainly a massive bookworm perhaps a little bit avant-garde, marched to the beat of her own drum a bit. She was quite strongly into her hobbies and quite focused but not to the extent that it was all that she could think about; to the extent that it had to come into every conversation, not like me.

    my dad on the other hand. Well I’ve never met anyone more eager to conform. He’s a kind of person who believed in children being seen and not heard. Read books by motivational speakers and studied people skills. His entire career revolves around sweet talking clients. The only real autistic features if that could be so might be his willingness to embrace a banality of accountancy, not that the kind of accountancy he did was very technical. That and his almost complete detachment emotionally from anything other than my mother. At least that’s how it was growing up. He’s a kind of guy who 10 or 15 years ago if you said you were depressed would’ve told you to pull yourself together. He’s mellowed a little in old age.

    neither one of them really had the huge social difficulty that’s associated with autistic people or the repetitive behaviours and  interests that are associated with autistic people.

    that said I’m willing to bet the autistic gene comes from my mothers side. Both of my cousins on her side are autistic and reasonably high functioning.

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  • Not really. My mother had really good social skills, like really good, she was very good at persuading people to do things. She was certainly a massive bookworm perhaps a little bit avant-garde, marched to the beat of her own drum a bit. She was quite strongly into her hobbies and quite focused but not to the extent that it was all that she could think about; to the extent that it had to come into every conversation, not like me.

    my dad on the other hand. Well I’ve never met anyone more eager to conform. He’s a kind of person who believed in children being seen and not heard. Read books by motivational speakers and studied people skills. His entire career revolves around sweet talking clients. The only real autistic features if that could be so might be his willingness to embrace a banality of accountancy, not that the kind of accountancy he did was very technical. That and his almost complete detachment emotionally from anything other than my mother. At least that’s how it was growing up. He’s a kind of guy who 10 or 15 years ago if you said you were depressed would’ve told you to pull yourself together. He’s mellowed a little in old age.

    neither one of them really had the huge social difficulty that’s associated with autistic people or the repetitive behaviours and  interests that are associated with autistic people.

    that said I’m willing to bet the autistic gene comes from my mothers side. Both of my cousins on her side are autistic and reasonably high functioning.

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