Does anyone else have the tendency to kind of subconsciously (only way I can explain it) just compare two people and things they do, or I’ll have people close to me take tests and I’ll compare our answers or observe theirs. I feel like it’s really odd to some people and I’ve had someone tell me that I’ve made them uncomfortable because I was like “you kind of look like me” when I’m kind of just observing them and I think it may be that I am always trying to find sameness in people while also trying to like pick their brain and see deeper into their personality? A lot of my ways of communicating are finding ways to relate to people but I’ll think someone understands and is like me or something and knows what I’m saying or thinking and then turns out we are definitely NOT thinking the same way. It’s like if I see a trait in myself I’m trying to automatically find it in everyone that’s around me.
I also tend to think someone likes me or wants to be really close and have a friendship over a small thing that we both relate to, which I’ll realize it’s eventually one sided and I’m like why did I feel like we were closer than we really were? It almost feels like a narcissistic trait like I see how people might be in the mindset that I believe everyone likes me and I’m oh so great and relatable to talk to and have a big impact on their life when in reality it’s just a very strong feeling of connection because I’ll see something in that person I’ve never seen in anyone else. I definitely consider myself far from narcissistic other than maybe the feeling that I always need to have certain things, but that’s mostly because of sensory issues.
