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Does Anybody hate the sound of their own voice being played back to them?

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This follows on from the thread about looking in your own eyes or those of others.....and that thread also strayed into talk of photos of yourself too.

Personally, I absolutely hate to hear a playback of myself talking.  I sound like a man with a "punchable face" if you know what I mean.

It doesn't ever sound like me.....more like the ass-hat version of me (ie pointless and ridiculous and has no use or purpose.)

I wonder if this is plain old-fashioned self-loathing or whether there is something deeper going on.

I have a recording of myself aged 8 years old......and I sound MUCH nicer then !

Does anyone have firm thoughts on this subject?

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  • I find it horrific. The first time it happened, as a child, I remember being devastated. Only we hear our own voice as it sounds to us. It has more resonance because of vibrations through the skull. In more recent years, I've very occasionally had to hear my awful voice back when recording a short instruction video for work etc. And in recent months decided I wasn't going to let my self-disgust stop me from having some occasional therapeutic involvement in a podcast that  someone from a little online community I'm in kindly invited me on to when I was feeling up to it. I've forced myself to listen back to learn how to get better and, apart from sounding as bad as ever, I've realised that I stammer way more than I thought. As well as using the discourse marker 'you know' with such frequency that I'm surprised nobody's ever strangled me to death. 

    Anyway, that bit of making myself do that has helped me somewhat make peace with it. Its the only voice i'm ever going to have, unless I wake up with a different larynx one day due to an overnight miracle. So, it is what it is. 

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  • I find it horrific. The first time it happened, as a child, I remember being devastated. Only we hear our own voice as it sounds to us. It has more resonance because of vibrations through the skull. In more recent years, I've very occasionally had to hear my awful voice back when recording a short instruction video for work etc. And in recent months decided I wasn't going to let my self-disgust stop me from having some occasional therapeutic involvement in a podcast that  someone from a little online community I'm in kindly invited me on to when I was feeling up to it. I've forced myself to listen back to learn how to get better and, apart from sounding as bad as ever, I've realised that I stammer way more than I thought. As well as using the discourse marker 'you know' with such frequency that I'm surprised nobody's ever strangled me to death. 

    Anyway, that bit of making myself do that has helped me somewhat make peace with it. Its the only voice i'm ever going to have, unless I wake up with a different larynx one day due to an overnight miracle. So, it is what it is. 

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