What age should I be

Peter, you may have an emotional coping age of 12 but an intelligence of a 51 year old man. You just take things literal and seriously. That is aspergers. Give yourself a break, the guy was just a knob. Comfort your child heart with your adult mind, when you feel like this, you did nothing wrong.

I spoke a post about the same problem of taking everything to heart as if what they say was totally true like a child and said that I ended up in a literal claustrophic mindset (stuck and fixated).

Your mental age will move up and down,(like everyone elses on the planet) depending on environment, just with aspergers it goes down to child when stressed or challenged. There is many states of mindset being, adult, child, nasty child, parent, strict parent, authoritarian.

Adult: talking rational and clear " are you waiting to pick any one up"

Strict parent: "What do you think i am a taxi driver"

Child:" to which i apologises very quickly"

Nasty Child(playground): " reply cheeky,, yes ! you sound like a taxi driver !"

Parent: "are you lost sir"

Strict Parent: "you are not allowed to park there or you will be fined"

Authoritarian: "sorry sir, but I am going to have to ask you to leave the area or you will be fined, thankyou "

I find normally the people in your life are mostly in one or two modes, I find strict parent, authoritarian and nasty child are a cluster behaviour. Parent, Child and adult the other. Just now you are in child and adult, and I am taking the role of parent.

Having aspergers I am very adult cognitive rational most of the time, but child emotional if challenged or upset by others behaviour, it becomes child fear. Also parent which is across between adult and child.

Hope you can help yourself (adult), you will be fine(parent), ask other people for help (child). You better get it sorted (strict parent), why have you not fixed this (authoritarian) and my goodness you can't cope(nasty child).

See how it works, I feel it quite funny to watch adults jump in and out of these modes. Some people like doctors, politicians, nursery workers, teachers, make a living out of being in these modes. Can you guess which ones ?

Peter, you may have an emotional coping age of 12 but an intelligence of a 51 year old man. You just take things literal and seriously. That is aspergers. Give yourself a break, the guy was just a knob. Comfort your child heart with your adult mind, when you feel like this, you did nothing wrong.

I spoke a post about the same problem of taking everything to heart as if what they say was totally true like a child and said that I ended up in a literal claustrophic mindset (stuck and fixated).

Your mental age will move up and down,(like everyone elses on the planet) depending on environment, just with aspergers it goes down to child when stressed or challenged. There is many states of mindset being, adult, child, nasty child, parent, strict parent, authoritarian.

Adult: talking rational and clear " are you waiting to pick any one up"

Strict parent: "What do you think i am a taxi driver"

Child:" to which i apologises very quickly"

Nasty Child(playground): " reply cheeky,, yes ! you sound like a taxi driver !"

Parent: "are you lost sir"

Strict Parent: "you are not allowed to park there or you will be fined"

Authoritarian: "sorry sir, but I am going to have to ask you to leave the area or you will be fined, thankyou "

I find normally the people in your life are mostly in one or two modes, I find strict parent, authoritarian and nasty child are a cluster behaviour. Parent, Child and adult the other. Just now you are in child and adult, and I am taking the role of parent.

Having aspergers I am very adult cognitive rational most of the time, but child emotional if challenged or upset by others behaviour, it becomes child fear. Also parent which is across between adult and child.

Hope you can help yourself (adult), you will be fine(parent), ask other people for help (child). You better get it sorted (strict parent), why have you not fixed this (authoritarian) and my goodness you can't cope(nasty child).

See how it works, I feel it quite funny to watch adults jump in and out of these modes. Some people like doctors, politicians, nursery workers, teachers, make a living out of being in these modes. Can you guess which ones ?