I've almost come to terms with being autistic but I'm having trouble making friends. I try to start a conversation or post something fun or what I've created on social media but I get very little attention - no likes or comments. It makes me feel alone in this big world. Is there anyone else like this? I would like to make new friends and hopefully meet up with them.
I just got diagnosed as Autistic two weeks ago, as such I am looking at everything with fresh eyes, which is weird because I’d read all of the lore on Asperger’s prior to being diagnosed.
That being said I have one friend, I’ve lost all of my other friends to time and circumstance, I like the idea of finding friends for life and I know that you do not come across them commonly.
I live an existence of surfing up and down the hills and troughs that are mood and stress, I suppose that if I was not doing this I would literally be flat-lining, so I guess there’s a silver-lining in there somewhere.
When you say that you have trouble making friends, I guess a better realisation would be that friends are hard to make, you find them while you are not looking.
I have found that a good friend is easier to find when you are at a low point, because they are enjoying your vulnerable side, you complete the circle when your new friend becomes low and you find that you can pick them up too.
You may also find that your interests align and that you bounce well off of each other at your high points as well.
Social media is certainly not a place to look for a genuine interaction, especially for autistic people, because there is an illiteracy amongst modern people, and because internet personas are at best a half-truth.
Autistic individuals are very well known for their literal-take, for their all-or-nothing approach, and for their not seeing the forest-for-the-trees.
Most people who use social media project an idealistic image of themselves onto their audience, most are not looking to share a genuine-interaction but are looking to fish for a compliment.
I used to put my drawings online as a means to get praise from others, because I have low self-esteem, and I used to take it straight to the soul when no one commented. I sort of entombed myself in my own negative thoughts and I used to obsess over all the bad reasons someone may have ignored or rebuked me. But the reality is that most people on social media are pretty unhappy, they don’t have time to watch me, ‘boast’, as they see it.
However this is not your average social media platform, here we look after each other, and let each other know that we are glad to have found our kin. We are glad to find that out kin have plenty of praise for us, here we do not ignore messages, your work is amazing!
I actually find it monumentally taxing to draw landscapes, and to see that you are doing it so deftly makes me smile, I love a good landscape! Keep posting because you are not alone, and it feels good to know that others have an appetite for conversation.
Even if I seem to have harped on a little too long, I hope that you are enjoying the benefits of considering that a message is too long to read, this platform offers that on occasion and I am glad to reciprocate when the opportunity arises..:D
I just got diagnosed as Autistic two weeks ago, as such I am looking at everything with fresh eyes, which is weird because I’d read all of the lore on Asperger’s prior to being diagnosed.
That being said I have one friend, I’ve lost all of my other friends to time and circumstance, I like the idea of finding friends for life and I know that you do not come across them commonly.
I live an existence of surfing up and down the hills and troughs that are mood and stress, I suppose that if I was not doing this I would literally be flat-lining, so I guess there’s a silver-lining in there somewhere.
When you say that you have trouble making friends, I guess a better realisation would be that friends are hard to make, you find them while you are not looking.
I have found that a good friend is easier to find when you are at a low point, because they are enjoying your vulnerable side, you complete the circle when your new friend becomes low and you find that you can pick them up too.
You may also find that your interests align and that you bounce well off of each other at your high points as well.
Social media is certainly not a place to look for a genuine interaction, especially for autistic people, because there is an illiteracy amongst modern people, and because internet personas are at best a half-truth.
Autistic individuals are very well known for their literal-take, for their all-or-nothing approach, and for their not seeing the forest-for-the-trees.
Most people who use social media project an idealistic image of themselves onto their audience, most are not looking to share a genuine-interaction but are looking to fish for a compliment.
I used to put my drawings online as a means to get praise from others, because I have low self-esteem, and I used to take it straight to the soul when no one commented. I sort of entombed myself in my own negative thoughts and I used to obsess over all the bad reasons someone may have ignored or rebuked me. But the reality is that most people on social media are pretty unhappy, they don’t have time to watch me, ‘boast’, as they see it.
However this is not your average social media platform, here we look after each other, and let each other know that we are glad to have found our kin. We are glad to find that out kin have plenty of praise for us, here we do not ignore messages, your work is amazing!
I actually find it monumentally taxing to draw landscapes, and to see that you are doing it so deftly makes me smile, I love a good landscape! Keep posting because you are not alone, and it feels good to know that others have an appetite for conversation.
Even if I seem to have harped on a little too long, I hope that you are enjoying the benefits of considering that a message is too long to read, this platform offers that on occasion and I am glad to reciprocate when the opportunity arises..:D
