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Bye for now

Oakling

Hello everyone,

I just wanted to post this message out of courtesy and so that I wouldn’t spend time worrying anymore about the fact that I’m not managing to post on here in the way I’d hoped at the moment. 

Recently I made a post about not recognising my own emotions and therefore struggling to regulate them. I receive many helpful responses but I simply cannot reply. I would like to, but I can’t. I did do a small update to say that I think, emotionally speaking, that there is more going on for me at the moment and that I was going to seek some help. Well I am doing exactly that. 

In spending time looking for support, I’m finding that anything I can worry about, I am worrying about. I’m actually spending a lot of  time worrying about my lack of replies here (entirely coming from me and not you kind people on here). I then come to do the replies or join in on other posts and completely freeze. Which then makes me feel bad and reduces my self-esteem etc. and the cycle continues.

Low mood, low self-esteem and anxiety are hugely out of balance at the moment, so I’m going to take a break from being on here for a while whilst I process and work through this current state of being.

I’m very grateful to the community for all the support, understanding and kindness shown. I’m also grateful for the fact that everyone gets a chance to be their real selves in a place like this. As such, I will be back at some point, but I think it’s time to reduce the number of potential sources of worry and time to focus on getting better again.

Take care everyone. Bye for now.

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  • It must have taken a huge effort for you to find the words to post this. It is so good of you to think of others when you are struggling yourself. We autists find communication difficult. Whilst easier in written text than verbal it is still hard. I know I have days when I don't feel able to post at all and others when the words just flow.

    Oakling said:
    Recently I made a post about not recognising my own emotions and therefore struggling to regulate them. I receive many helpful responses but I simply cannot reply. I would like to, but I can’t. I did do a small update to say that I think

    I'm sure you know this already but I just want to state the obvious. Individual replies or responses are not expected on here and please do not feel under any obligation to do so. The update that you did was greatly appreciated and more than sufficient. If you do not have the words then that is understood and accepted. This is a fast moving forum and things move on very quickly.

    Oakling said:
    I’m actually spending a lot of  time worrying about my lack of replies here (entirely coming from me and not you kind people on here). I then come to do the replies or join in on other posts and completely freeze. Which then makes me feel bad and reduces my self-esteem etc. and the cycle continues.

    I recognise what you say because I sometimes experience similar myself. I suspect many of us on here do. After all we usually spend a lifetime being so unsure of ourselves in any kind of social situation. 

    Like you I sometimes half type a post then freeze and not know what to say or do next. Instead of just deleting it I copy and paste what I've written into a text document, so that I can go back and resume the next day. It helps to get those thoughts out of my head because I know they are safely saved in a document on my computer.

    Please look after yourself and take all the time away that you need. You'll be very welcome when you do return.

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  • It must have taken a huge effort for you to find the words to post this. It is so good of you to think of others when you are struggling yourself. We autists find communication difficult. Whilst easier in written text than verbal it is still hard. I know I have days when I don't feel able to post at all and others when the words just flow.

    Oakling said:
    Recently I made a post about not recognising my own emotions and therefore struggling to regulate them. I receive many helpful responses but I simply cannot reply. I would like to, but I can’t. I did do a small update to say that I think

    I'm sure you know this already but I just want to state the obvious. Individual replies or responses are not expected on here and please do not feel under any obligation to do so. The update that you did was greatly appreciated and more than sufficient. If you do not have the words then that is understood and accepted. This is a fast moving forum and things move on very quickly.

    Oakling said:
    I’m actually spending a lot of  time worrying about my lack of replies here (entirely coming from me and not you kind people on here). I then come to do the replies or join in on other posts and completely freeze. Which then makes me feel bad and reduces my self-esteem etc. and the cycle continues.

    I recognise what you say because I sometimes experience similar myself. I suspect many of us on here do. After all we usually spend a lifetime being so unsure of ourselves in any kind of social situation. 

    Like you I sometimes half type a post then freeze and not know what to say or do next. Instead of just deleting it I copy and paste what I've written into a text document, so that I can go back and resume the next day. It helps to get those thoughts out of my head because I know they are safely saved in a document on my computer.

    Please look after yourself and take all the time away that you need. You'll be very welcome when you do return.

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