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Have to go and fix someones bloody computer tomorrow

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So basically,I have to go to where my mum and my sisters workplace is to help someone fix their computer for free. No pay whatsoever, it just p*sses me off so much to be honest, since I work like 35 hours a week, I have to go there after like 7 hours of work tomorow. I'm already annoyed just thinking about it because i think i don't have enough time to do my hobbies which is what I do everyday after work! I can't believe my parents don't understand my aspergers, a normal person fixing something after work, no problem, but with a aspie, doing these to disturb my normal routine is WAY more difficult for which is what they don't understand, also I don't see noone fixing MY computer for free when I have a problem with it, I had to PAY to get it fixed, of course my sister would try to fix it for them and she did't know how to, it's her workplace, it's nothing to do with me, it's difficult enough coping with stress levels at work having aspergers AND OCD, they just don't get it, my routine is not to do anymore work after work so I can calm myself down and relax all refreshed for the next day, not to CHANGE my routine

I hope you all understand what how feeling right now

  • good point longman,, engaging on your own terms, even if those terms seem a bit usually for others.

    So the question is, If you wish to fix the computer, then what is the best way to engage to do so ?

    eg. Bring it over, leave it with me, or mum/sister goes to collect.

  • You can of course ask for some conditions, somewhere quiet to work on this computer, rather than in a busy open plan area.

    As openheart illustrates it often boils down to the continued lack of understanding from professionals downwards about the significance of sensory issues and sensory overload.

    But on the other hand being asked to do such jobs is useful. If you cannot socialise well and find many social environments uncomfortable, you can still engage on your own terms and you may find you enjoy it in the end. You do need points of interaction for reference, I avoid many social environments but have found a useful means of involvement through committees, if they are well managed.

    I recommend John Elder Robinson's book "Look me in the eye - my life with aspergers" published in 2007. Its a joy to read but more importantly it illustrates how being useful at things he liked doing he grew more confident. He was good at sound systems for rock bands, and became indispensable. He also developed real skill restoring and maintaining old cars. So he was always in demand but got to interact with people on his own terms.

    The big big danger with ASC Hawk is isolation. If you don't get enough interaction your mind goes into overplay and anxiety ramps up.

    I'd say go ahead and do this computer fixing job, and any more such opportunities you can get. Do it well every time. You'll be surprised how much it improves how you feel. 

  • Thank you, at least you all understand! I woke up this morning. and that fixing computer thing is constantly in my head now making me angry, they will never understand how much anxiety I have to cope with, definetly not if they don't have aspergers, I did moan and say I didn't want to the other day then my mum got angry and moaned back at me, I was so p*ssed off with them for not understanding my stress levels that I have to go through

    I'll have to end up being alone with my computer and games all night after this as I always do, and I don't want to talk or get disturbed by any of them.

  • YellI have to go (no one has to do anything, they don't wish to agree too).

    meeting a stranger at there work

    lose of control

    lose of routine and environment

    pressure to fix computer

    stress

    new environment

    etc

    I CONCLUDE YOUR MUM AND YOUR SISTER HAVE NO UNDERSTANDING OF YOUR ASPERGERS CONDITION.

    I see you have a bigger problem than that computer, you have to fix your mother and sister first, it is okay for them, they do not see your world. Your family make me anger too. !

    Solution ! HAVE A MELTDOWN !

     

     

  • I think you need to learn how to decline requests from people to do things you feel so against doing.  I know it's difficult, but just tell the truth and say you are afraid you can't do it.  It might be too late to get out of this time, but make it clear that you can't do it again.