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Young boy autism ADHD feeling ‘sick’ no symptoms

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Son age 7 is autistic and has ADHD states he is feeling sick but has no symptoms of temperature or vomiting and is eating very well . Last 4 days states he is ‘sick’ and I’ve no idea how to help him he won’t deceive it or act out what’s up or draw how he’s feeling… any ideas???

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  • Hi yes probably anxiety so how do you help a 7 year old deal and manage his own anxiety on a day to day basis - need some simple tools and techniques for him. Any ideas?

  • in reply to NAS84544

    Reduce the importance of his workload. I have lots of work and if I didn't give myself the permission mentally to fail to complete it, then I would fail it by not doing it because the demand feels overwhelming and makes the tasks feel like even more work than they really are once broken down into actionable chunks. Rather than feeling like a deer caught in the headlights.

    You can apply that to his homework and other responsibilities and see if that works. But you still need to press that the work needs doing ofc but what I mean is don't compound it with punishment for failure, the failure itself is punishing enough. If he fails stuff then just wipe that slate clean and go tomorrow is a new day, try again tomorrow, no chastisement, and don't let himself chastise himself either, make sure he has a strong sense of self worth. if something isn't perfect that's okay too, perfection is a goal for an older kid and doesn't need to happen today.
    I'm an adult and it took me a long time through practice to be self compassionate, and it might even feel very fake it til he makes it, but it's worthy trying it for at least a couple of months because I've never broken into a better habit in less than 3 weeks, even with adult level self awareness.

    (ASC, and OCD with suspected ADD.)

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  • in reply to NAS84544

    Reduce the importance of his workload. I have lots of work and if I didn't give myself the permission mentally to fail to complete it, then I would fail it by not doing it because the demand feels overwhelming and makes the tasks feel like even more work than they really are once broken down into actionable chunks. Rather than feeling like a deer caught in the headlights.

    You can apply that to his homework and other responsibilities and see if that works. But you still need to press that the work needs doing ofc but what I mean is don't compound it with punishment for failure, the failure itself is punishing enough. If he fails stuff then just wipe that slate clean and go tomorrow is a new day, try again tomorrow, no chastisement, and don't let himself chastise himself either, make sure he has a strong sense of self worth. if something isn't perfect that's okay too, perfection is a goal for an older kid and doesn't need to happen today.
    I'm an adult and it took me a long time through practice to be self compassionate, and it might even feel very fake it til he makes it, but it's worthy trying it for at least a couple of months because I've never broken into a better habit in less than 3 weeks, even with adult level self awareness.

    (ASC, and OCD with suspected ADD.)

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