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Someone used a delicate side of my autism as an Art project

Kittera

Hey! So this just happened to me tonight: I want your opinion:

A couple of months ago my autism degraded my health heavily making me wonder if it may be more severe than my initial diagnosis. I found something that fitted my description completely and I discussed it with my GP, but feeling worst, I dropped the aid. It caused several depression, loss of weight and a lot of suicidal thoughts (not the subject). Around the same time I meet this girl, I'll call her Mary. She tells me she's very autistic, and I tell her about my condition and suspicion of my decreased mental condition. I tell her I think I may have something close to an extreme version of  "Maladaptive Daydreaming". My parents thought I was naive sharing my thought with Mary that she'll tell everyone. 

I didn't care if she did, it might to me be very true. I was not going to see her again since we chose different art options "yes we are in an Art University"

No, she did worst.

Today, was a great day, first of all. Then I hear a girl talking with my tutor about her project and how it's about "people stuck in a different mental dimension"....... ok? Then after a while, the girl talking is about to leave, trying to depict at best her work while avoiding making it narrative (art). Suddenly she says it's about "maladaptive Daydreaming". I rise from my seat in astonishment and guess who I see? Mary. I was FURIOUS. I watch her leave in awe, she doesn't even notice I am in the room. The tutor looks at me and asks if something is wrong. I ask if I heard what I heard was correct. He says yes and then realises I may be that which Mary spoke of and I say "yes!" and he replies "Ok, I'll tell her to put you the credit!" I cry that that's NOT THE POINT!!

I cry and am still upset. I felt betrayed that she would not even ask me first knowing I had that mental condition and how sensible it can be. Understand that she would not know about this had I not talked to her about it in the first place. Autism can take many forms I know.

As an autistic person would you enjoy having a mental condition that may cause you harm and be used as an art project WITHOUT WARNING? Did I overreact or am I right to be upset?

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  • I think the fact that she wasn't slyly pestering you for details shows it's not about you personally but she just happened to hear the phrase maladaptive daydreaming from you (and this is the important part) Several Months ago probably forgot entirely it was you who mentioned it, and then just looked into it herself when she was looking for something to do a project on. I really don't think you have to take this thing personally. You don't own maladaptive daydreaming, so it's not like she stole an idea from you. She's made a project on Maladaptive Daydreaming,right? She didn't say it was Kitteras Maladaptive Daydreaming.  If I saw her work I wouldn't hav ebeen able to tell you were even in the same class unless you said because she hasn't personally identified you right? In fact if she is also autistic she probably has maladaptive daydreaming too but didn't realise until you said it.
    You really need to ask her yourself if it was about you specifically or just the condition before your teacher does because you may have just set off a chain reaction which will demonise her when she's done nothing wrong.
    I realise this is upsetting because it felt like "Mary"s project hit an area you are sensitive in, but I think you risk more upset by alienating your fellow autist who is probably just going through the same thing you are.

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  • I think the fact that she wasn't slyly pestering you for details shows it's not about you personally but she just happened to hear the phrase maladaptive daydreaming from you (and this is the important part) Several Months ago probably forgot entirely it was you who mentioned it, and then just looked into it herself when she was looking for something to do a project on. I really don't think you have to take this thing personally. You don't own maladaptive daydreaming, so it's not like she stole an idea from you. She's made a project on Maladaptive Daydreaming,right? She didn't say it was Kitteras Maladaptive Daydreaming.  If I saw her work I wouldn't hav ebeen able to tell you were even in the same class unless you said because she hasn't personally identified you right? In fact if she is also autistic she probably has maladaptive daydreaming too but didn't realise until you said it.
    You really need to ask her yourself if it was about you specifically or just the condition before your teacher does because you may have just set off a chain reaction which will demonise her when she's done nothing wrong.
    I realise this is upsetting because it felt like "Mary"s project hit an area you are sensitive in, but I think you risk more upset by alienating your fellow autist who is probably just going through the same thing you are.

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