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Someone used a delicate side of my autism as an Art project

Kittera

Hey! So this just happened to me tonight: I want your opinion:

A couple of months ago my autism degraded my health heavily making me wonder if it may be more severe than my initial diagnosis. I found something that fitted my description completely and I discussed it with my GP, but feeling worst, I dropped the aid. It caused several depression, loss of weight and a lot of suicidal thoughts (not the subject). Around the same time I meet this girl, I'll call her Mary. She tells me she's very autistic, and I tell her about my condition and suspicion of my decreased mental condition. I tell her I think I may have something close to an extreme version of  "Maladaptive Daydreaming". My parents thought I was naive sharing my thought with Mary that she'll tell everyone. 

I didn't care if she did, it might to me be very true. I was not going to see her again since we chose different art options "yes we are in an Art University"

No, she did worst.

Today, was a great day, first of all. Then I hear a girl talking with my tutor about her project and how it's about "people stuck in a different mental dimension"....... ok? Then after a while, the girl talking is about to leave, trying to depict at best her work while avoiding making it narrative (art). Suddenly she says it's about "maladaptive Daydreaming". I rise from my seat in astonishment and guess who I see? Mary. I was FURIOUS. I watch her leave in awe, she doesn't even notice I am in the room. The tutor looks at me and asks if something is wrong. I ask if I heard what I heard was correct. He says yes and then realises I may be that which Mary spoke of and I say "yes!" and he replies "Ok, I'll tell her to put you the credit!" I cry that that's NOT THE POINT!!

I cry and am still upset. I felt betrayed that she would not even ask me first knowing I had that mental condition and how sensible it can be. Understand that she would not know about this had I not talked to her about it in the first place. Autism can take many forms I know.

As an autistic person would you enjoy having a mental condition that may cause you harm and be used as an art project WITHOUT WARNING? Did I overreact or am I right to be upset?

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  • While anyone could understand your concerns, and while I don't think that 'Mary' was considerate of your feelings, I think that so much depends on how her art presents or depicts you (and, by extension, the condition and also others who have the same condition as you). If her depiction is positive, caring, insightful and an aid to other people in understanding what you're going through then perhaps she should be forgiven.

    As you surely know, artists borrow or 'steal' all the time, and virtually always have (in terms of influence, homage and for other reasons). They take and re-shape things from life as much as they do from imagination; what *really* matters is how they use the inspiration given by others. In other circumstances, you might well have 'taken' from her in order to create your own vision. This affair isn't personal, let alone business - it's merely typical of artistic people.

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  • While anyone could understand your concerns, and while I don't think that 'Mary' was considerate of your feelings, I think that so much depends on how her art presents or depicts you (and, by extension, the condition and also others who have the same condition as you). If her depiction is positive, caring, insightful and an aid to other people in understanding what you're going through then perhaps she should be forgiven.

    As you surely know, artists borrow or 'steal' all the time, and virtually always have (in terms of influence, homage and for other reasons). They take and re-shape things from life as much as they do from imagination; what *really* matters is how they use the inspiration given by others. In other circumstances, you might well have 'taken' from her in order to create your own vision. This affair isn't personal, let alone business - it's merely typical of artistic people.

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