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Do you get a chance to talk about your special interests?

Oakling

Outside of this space, do you ever get the chance to have a conversation about the things you find interesting?

There are a few things I’m really passionate about (rocks, minerals, wood/tree species and grain patterns, traditional joinery techniques, wood turning, strength sports etc.). But whenever I try to talk about any of them I either get the impression that people are uninterested (which may be the case for my niche interests), that I’ve targeted the wrong audience or, even more interestingly, people come out and directly comment on how boring my interests are (even in jest, but with a perceived layer of truth hidden).

Just be yourself they say… but obviously don’t actually be yourself!

Id love to actually speak out loud about my interest sometimes, but just haven’t found anyone interested enough.

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  • I understand completely. I get like my entire person as a whole is a pain to everyone around me and what I say even more. I do feel like it's just our autism though, making us a tiny paranoid (humour please...). You must be yourself when talking with someone and conversation will come on its own. 

    For example, a recent new friend of mine has never a movie I love. I usually never talk about it because I feel it would bore everyone or make me look crazy or nerdy. I offered to come to my house to see it but then she got very excited at the idea of seeing my pets. Making me wonder if she's more excited about our night together and me as a person or just my animals. She is lovely, to me it's just a complete miss of trust.

    Point is, I might have trust issues, but if I hadn't been myself, I would have never found out I could make her discover something new. You must have faith that you will meet people who are interested or even do like me: express your interest differently. There are so many writing websites, drawing or even real clubs you could go to and find interested people. And don't quite bring your interest up, they may be out of their league but they listen and remember: trust me, I know what I am talking about.  

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  • I understand completely. I get like my entire person as a whole is a pain to everyone around me and what I say even more. I do feel like it's just our autism though, making us a tiny paranoid (humour please...). You must be yourself when talking with someone and conversation will come on its own. 

    For example, a recent new friend of mine has never a movie I love. I usually never talk about it because I feel it would bore everyone or make me look crazy or nerdy. I offered to come to my house to see it but then she got very excited at the idea of seeing my pets. Making me wonder if she's more excited about our night together and me as a person or just my animals. She is lovely, to me it's just a complete miss of trust.

    Point is, I might have trust issues, but if I hadn't been myself, I would have never found out I could make her discover something new. You must have faith that you will meet people who are interested or even do like me: express your interest differently. There are so many writing websites, drawing or even real clubs you could go to and find interested people. And don't quite bring your interest up, they may be out of their league but they listen and remember: trust me, I know what I am talking about.  

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