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please help are these signs of autism

sweetlikechoc

Leo's special list

BEFORE

  • got assessed and was at the development age of 10 months at 2 years

  • didn’t walk till he was 2

  • didn’t eat solids till he was 2 due to fear of swallowing

  • didn’t learn to use toilet and out of nappies till he was 4

  • was behind in all milestones

  • would only play alone

  • talking made no sense started about 4 and half

    NOW 7

    • whispers to himself

    • hums when he eats

    • not affectionate stopped giving cuddles and kisses for a long time still has a problem with it specially with anyone other than me his sister and foster sister

    • doesn't like strangers much

    • gets over excited for hours some times its hard to calm him down

    • takes everything you say to heart I.E if you say as a joke ow il have to get my manager to come and look at this work he will give u a job u will have to leave school at this rate. He will for the rest of the day get his room ready for the manager all he will talk about is the manager ask when s he coming over and over again. Get up before six to the change the room around for the manager

    • high energy

    • will go sleep late and wake up about 6 everyday

    • depends on sister ALOT

    • if sister stays out he can not deal with it is very difficult not naught just hard work and depressed

    • we recently split them up into separate rooms leo slept on the floor outside the door every night for a few weeks

    • hard to settle at night

    • has speech problems

    • wants to stay out at times but comes home 99% of the time. Told me he wants to just be at home with his family

    • addicted to counting

    • wanted to do school work everyday in holidays

    • needs consistency and routine.

    • Very sensitive, at the same time doesnt cry at the usual things but will cry at little things like a joke he will be smiling then burst into tears

    • lies

    • wont stop if you tell him to

    • watches same dvd every night for weeks on end


    leo has not got a nasty bone in his body loves being helpful from when he could walk he helped people with buggies off the bus cross at a zebra crossing trying to tell driving off or thanking them


    slow bone growth webbed eyes

    he is smallest he is going into year4 and same size as year 1

  • he is behind in everything apart from maths he is ahead in maths and addicted to counting and adding wanting to do it constantly every second of the day

Parents

  • I'm concerned at your son's school's attitude.  Giving your son breakfast secretly for a month is not on.  They should have checked with you first as his parent what the situation was and asked your permission to give him food that you didn't know about, and then you could have set the record straight.  This surreptitious behaviour is very concerning.

    Also, they seem to think they have powers they don't.  I am presuming the HT asked you to write this diary of his breakfasts?  They do not have the power to do that.  You are not a child, you are an adult and you have rights.  The school is your son's educator not his parent and they are not in charge of you.  Of course your son has rights too and they obviously believe they are protecting his rights - obviously school staff have a duty to report any concerns but they are making big assumptions based on the statement of a child.  If you think about it, in a court of law, how much can they legally rely on a child's statement - children are known to lie, and the younger the child the more possible this is.  So for the school to rely on what he has said without checking anything at all with you is wrong.

    Not wearing socks should not give off red flags to a school, again they are jumping to conclusions and making assumptions.

    This sort of thing makes me so angry, because there are these children that they don't help such as Baby P and Daniel Pelka who was starved and battered to death right under their noses, and people that have done nothing get suspected of all sorts.

    If I were you, I would write a letter to the school (and copy in social services) to say that whilst you appreciate they have a duty to children, they have not behaved in an acceptable manner and you do not intend giving in to any further demands.  You expect them to fulfil their duty regarding your son's special needs and assist you in getting him assessed/statemented or whatever you are seeking.  I would also demand to know why they automatically believed a child without checking with the parent first too.

    Don't be intimidated by the school, they are your son's teachers not yours!

    I would request in the letter that they keep a copy of the assembly video for the purposes of your son's assessment/statement whatever, so they have no excuse to delete it.

    Here is the information about behaviour:

    http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/understanding-behaviour/behaviour-common-questions-answered/different-behaviour-between-school-and-home.aspx

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  • I'm concerned at your son's school's attitude.  Giving your son breakfast secretly for a month is not on.  They should have checked with you first as his parent what the situation was and asked your permission to give him food that you didn't know about, and then you could have set the record straight.  This surreptitious behaviour is very concerning.

    Also, they seem to think they have powers they don't.  I am presuming the HT asked you to write this diary of his breakfasts?  They do not have the power to do that.  You are not a child, you are an adult and you have rights.  The school is your son's educator not his parent and they are not in charge of you.  Of course your son has rights too and they obviously believe they are protecting his rights - obviously school staff have a duty to report any concerns but they are making big assumptions based on the statement of a child.  If you think about it, in a court of law, how much can they legally rely on a child's statement - children are known to lie, and the younger the child the more possible this is.  So for the school to rely on what he has said without checking anything at all with you is wrong.

    Not wearing socks should not give off red flags to a school, again they are jumping to conclusions and making assumptions.

    This sort of thing makes me so angry, because there are these children that they don't help such as Baby P and Daniel Pelka who was starved and battered to death right under their noses, and people that have done nothing get suspected of all sorts.

    If I were you, I would write a letter to the school (and copy in social services) to say that whilst you appreciate they have a duty to children, they have not behaved in an acceptable manner and you do not intend giving in to any further demands.  You expect them to fulfil their duty regarding your son's special needs and assist you in getting him assessed/statemented or whatever you are seeking.  I would also demand to know why they automatically believed a child without checking with the parent first too.

    Don't be intimidated by the school, they are your son's teachers not yours!

    I would request in the letter that they keep a copy of the assembly video for the purposes of your son's assessment/statement whatever, so they have no excuse to delete it.

    Here is the information about behaviour:

    http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/understanding-behaviour/behaviour-common-questions-answered/different-behaviour-between-school-and-home.aspx

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