Do you read terms of use?

I used to read them. I tend to skim more now, or just skip (because often I need the item/service even if they are going to sell my data), but I feel dishonest if I don't at least skim.

I think some allistics might read, lawyers and other very law-abiding/law-interested people. I noticed a tendency on this site to make generalisations about NTs/allistics (not the same thing) in a way that people wouldn't like about autistics, even though NTs are a very big and diverse community.

Good points. I'm not sure if it's because I feel dishonest or to make sure there is nothing bad there, I think a blend of both. And yes, I have been guilty of overgeneralising NTs. I do wonder if I actually know very many, I kind of suspect anyone I get on with of being on the spectrum! What is the difference between NTs and allistics? I thought the two terms were synonyms?

ADHDers. bipolars, anybody neurodivergent but not autistic is allistic but not NT. NTs are allistic too

As it happens I know one guy who isn't in any of those neurodivergent categories, but for some reason I don't want to clasify him as NT because he is so much unlike 'typical'. I gave him a nickname Don Quixote

I suppose there is technically a nuance between the two, but it does sound a bit similar to me. Yes, annoying! Am I focused on myself? Maybe? Do I assume others are too? Yes. Am I wrong? How can I know?! Surely modern me me me culture is ultimately everyone focused on themself?

But doesn't everyone rely on themselves? I am getting confused! I don't know how I can tell if I interpret the behaviour of others correctly unless they tell me, so that would be relying on others?

I think technically it means 'focused on oneself' which isn't quite the same as selfish, although it is annoying.

How often does it happen you think you interpreted behaviour of others correctly? How often it turns out to be wrong? So, I would say most of the time we rely on ourselves

Interesting. I do try to learn from other people's mistakes! Does that count as using other's brains and make me less autistic? Haha.

Hmm, so autistic basically means selfish? Great! I don't think I'm any more or less selfish than anyone else. That's "nice" of them to label us that!

the meaning is: we focus on developing everything we need using our brains, allistic use other's brains, meaning they're copy-cats. Hopefully they are not fully aware it's even more offensive than NT.

But ...

It is what it is

It's not us coining these terms most of the time

but that one is supposedly of autistic origin and it was probably intended as a joke when it was used for the first time, and as all bad and targeting perceived defficiences in a person jokes in NT world it stuck

the meaning is: we focus on developing everything we need using our brains, allistic use other's brains, meaning they're copy-cats. Hopefully they are not fully aware it's even more offensive than NT.

But ...

It is what it is

It's not us coining these terms most of the time

but that one is supposedly of autistic origin and it was probably intended as a joke when it was used for the first time, and as all bad and targeting perceived defficiences in a person jokes in NT world it stuck

But doesn't everyone rely on themselves? I am getting confused! I don't know how I can tell if I interpret the behaviour of others correctly unless they tell me, so that would be relying on others?

How often does it happen you think you interpreted behaviour of others correctly? How often it turns out to be wrong? So, I would say most of the time we rely on ourselves

Interesting. I do try to learn from other people's mistakes! Does that count as using other's brains and make me less autistic? Haha.