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Moderation, respect, and offensive language.

Scorpion0x17

I find the following post deeply concerning:

Autismtwo,

Please stop this. You have no business demanding that Rachel uses words in a particular way. You have already been asked recently to treat other users with respect. This is your last warning. If you do this again, your posts will be moderated, requiring approval from me, or one of the other moderators, before they are published.

When you signed up, you agreed to obey rule 1:

"Don’t post messages that are offensive or insulting to other users."

You made your own views about Rachel's words very clear. This has now gone well beyond that, into aggression and harassment.

I know you don't like the way the NAS does things. I have never censored your opinions about us. But when you harass other users like this, we will intervene.

If you wish to discuss this privately, please email community.manager@nas.org.uk.

Yours,

Alex R - mod

A post was made that used language that several members, who have clearly stated that they themselves are on the autistic spectrum in numerous posts, found to be offensive and dengrating to those on the spectrum.

When this was pointed out it was dismissed out of hand by the original poster, as if the use of such language did not matter.

The above quoted post clearly takes the side of the original poster, and thus, by implication, condones the use of that language.

Should not a representative of the NAS at the very least remain neutral in such matters (reprimanding both those who denigrate people on the spectrum and those who speak out against it too strongly)?

Should an NAS representative not also be aware of the nature of the traits common amongst many on the spectrum and, in particular, their propensity to use very honest, direct, and sometimes too blunt, language without meaning any disrespect or offence?

Should a representative of the NAS, in fact, not actively discourage any language that denigrates those on the spectrum, not matter how mild the nature of the denigration?

Are these not things that every representative of the NAS, no matter their position, or role, should do, and bear in mind, at all times when dealing with the public, or anyone else, be they on the spectrum, or not?

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  • When I said on the other thread (started by Rachellouise - who hasn't posted again since the 14th, and I guess has left) - that I felt the moderators needed to find a better way of handling it, I was looking for something that perhaps summarised the main points and hoped the conflicting parties would agree to truce.

    I don't think the moderators should be obliged to excuse thoroughly bad behaviour even if it is symptomatic of autism. I would worry if the moderators singled out one party for blame when it is just the argument at issue.

    However I cannot go along with Scorpion0x17 on this one, even if that puts me under the label of creep.

    I did raise, under the other thread, that perseveration and persistance of resentment of something said that with NTs would pass, or a sense of grudge is likely with autistic spectrum, and the moderators needed to anticipate and plan for this (if they would be so kind).

    But at some point even we auties and aspies have to show regard for balanced discussion. 

    It is also something that damages our cause (if we have one - I forget sometimes), since the public, or at least parents and carers see us adults on the spectrum making an endless row out of sweet nothing at all..... why it looks just like a couple of four year olds having a meltdown.

    Really, I repeat, can we put the toys back in the pram and forget it?

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  • When I said on the other thread (started by Rachellouise - who hasn't posted again since the 14th, and I guess has left) - that I felt the moderators needed to find a better way of handling it, I was looking for something that perhaps summarised the main points and hoped the conflicting parties would agree to truce.

    I don't think the moderators should be obliged to excuse thoroughly bad behaviour even if it is symptomatic of autism. I would worry if the moderators singled out one party for blame when it is just the argument at issue.

    However I cannot go along with Scorpion0x17 on this one, even if that puts me under the label of creep.

    I did raise, under the other thread, that perseveration and persistance of resentment of something said that with NTs would pass, or a sense of grudge is likely with autistic spectrum, and the moderators needed to anticipate and plan for this (if they would be so kind).

    But at some point even we auties and aspies have to show regard for balanced discussion. 

    It is also something that damages our cause (if we have one - I forget sometimes), since the public, or at least parents and carers see us adults on the spectrum making an endless row out of sweet nothing at all..... why it looks just like a couple of four year olds having a meltdown.

    Really, I repeat, can we put the toys back in the pram and forget it?

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