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Am I the only one here who likes close physical contact with other living beings?

I Sperg

I found that whilst I don't like having close personal contact of any sort forced on me, I fundamentally enjoy close physical contact with another living being.

I Like "hugs", curling up with a cat on the sofa (or indeed in bed), getting into bed when there is someone else there. 

Yet here this forum seems chock full of people who do not seem to.

I was just wondering if there is anyone else who understands that fundamental sense of happiness and "rightness" I feel when I am close to another living breathing mammal. (I've no real experience of insects or reptiles. Although I can't think of any insect I'd want to cosy up next to...)

  • in reply to Shardovan

    It occurred to me yesterday that occasional trips to the dentist or opticians count as the closest thing to physical contact that occurs in my life. It can feel a little ASMR and slightly trance-y to have that (most often) female proximity very slightly cross the threshold of conventional standards for personal space in day to day encounters of any kind. It's a very pure experience, don't get me wrong - but it's so unfamiliar even at that level of things that it leaves me with a mild and short-lived euphoria afterwards. I suppose that makes me sound a bit tragic!

  • Hugs are an extremely rare event in my life - any form of intimacy is. When they have occurred (and I would never presume to initiate one), they have been brief and very moving miracles, there and gone before their immeasuable value can be fully felt and processed. Each one has had an increased probability of being the very last. I may well be hug-free from now to the grave. I can live with it, but it's a saddening thought if I I dwell on it too much. Maybe time to get a cat!

  • With very close friends yes. With cats no. I'm not really a pet person.

  • Absolutely.

    My mother tells me I did not much like being handled as a baby. I spent a childhood wiggling away from hugs and kisses.

    But yet, I hug friends. I enjoyed physical contact with my husband, my son. I think it's about the circumstance. Control over the contact. I don't want it taking me by surprise, confining me in any way or any feeling I can't escape it and better if I initiate it.

    I suppose it's a bit like clothes...I can't stand anything tailored, restricting me. Yet I need heavy blankets to sleep well.

  • with mammals in a form of cat yes

    with mammals in a form of human I have never experienced it,

    though it happens I long for partner I could cuddle with on a sofa and just stay like that.,

    it's 3 years after my relationship ended, and I had a thought a week or so ago abiout asking a girl out on a date, but I chickened out, and I have never seen her again