My Autistic Child goes crazy

NAS21846 said:

Hope.......the  capitals were used to highlight the difference between a parent and a child......not neccesarily the difference between an NT parent and an Autistic Parent (are there any on this site?).....

Yes, there are.  I have AS and I have one child with HFA and one with AS.

I want to make the point that I did not find RachelLouise's post offensive.  I will not pass judgement on anyone who was upset by use of the word crazy, that's their business and I won't be drawn into any discussion on that side of it however.

I just want to assure RachelLouise that I don't believe she has been thoughtless or failed to understand the sensitivities of people on the spectrum.  She did not say autistic = crazy, or say that people with autism are crazy.  She just used the word to describe the severity of her son's outbursts and it had nothing to do with describing his autism.

Any person is capable of crazy behaviour, regardless of their condition or lack thereof.  It's commonly used in society for a variety of reasons.

Unless someone says you are crazy; your child is crazy or someone else is crazy with specifity, they are not referring to your condition, they are just quantifying the level/degree of behaviour.  Of course someone could call your behaviour crazy which again, could be used towards anyone.  Unless they qualify their accusation that it is because you have [insert condition or other word/tone of voice insinuating or indicating that you have some deficit making you behave that way] a reason that is clear they are using as an insult, then they are not being insulting or discriminatory.

I agree with the other poster who said, someone has come on here looking for advice and support and instead has received some responses that were not the kind to be of help to her/her son.  She sounds like a caring mother trying to do the best.  Any parent who seeks advice to help their child should be commended, and I think her own sensitivities to autism and the traits it brings will be heightened due to having her own son having it, so she would be the last person to denigrate autistic people.

NAS21846 said:

Hope.......the  capitals were used to highlight the difference between a parent and a child......not neccesarily the difference between an NT parent and an Autistic Parent (are there any on this site?).....

Yes, there are.  I have AS and I have one child with HFA and one with AS.

I want to make the point that I did not find RachelLouise's post offensive.  I will not pass judgement on anyone who was upset by use of the word crazy, that's their business and I won't be drawn into any discussion on that side of it however.

I just want to assure RachelLouise that I don't believe she has been thoughtless or failed to understand the sensitivities of people on the spectrum.  She did not say autistic = crazy, or say that people with autism are crazy.  She just used the word to describe the severity of her son's outbursts and it had nothing to do with describing his autism.

Any person is capable of crazy behaviour, regardless of their condition or lack thereof.  It's commonly used in society for a variety of reasons.

Unless someone says you are crazy; your child is crazy or someone else is crazy with specifity, they are not referring to your condition, they are just quantifying the level/degree of behaviour.  Of course someone could call your behaviour crazy which again, could be used towards anyone.  Unless they qualify their accusation that it is because you have [insert condition or other word/tone of voice insinuating or indicating that you have some deficit making you behave that way] a reason that is clear they are using as an insult, then they are not being insulting or discriminatory.

I agree with the other poster who said, someone has come on here looking for advice and support and instead has received some responses that were not the kind to be of help to her/her son.  She sounds like a caring mother trying to do the best.  Any parent who seeks advice to help their child should be commended, and I think her own sensitivities to autism and the traits it brings will be heightened due to having her own son having it, so she would be the last person to denigrate autistic people.