My Autistic Child goes crazy

longman said:

What I would ask for is a lttle more understanding of spectrum behaviour. By the very nature of the condition we are inclined to perseverate. We tend to go on and on about things long after the initial context has been exhausted. I do it often, and it gets me into all kinds of trouble.

The NT perspective (and I use NT to represent people not on the spectrum) is very different. They tend to forget what they've said or done a short time after it has arisen, because the context no longer requires it.

For some reason due to the condition we have trouble forgetting or forgiving a perceived sleight. I think it partly arises from the need to analyse what has been said or done, because we aren't able to read context very efficiently.

So this sort of conflict is likely to happen often on an autism community discussion site.

I wondered if the moderators could take account of this. Its symptomatic of the condition and ought to be something the moderators are equipped to handle. It may be they can establish a means of diffusing the situation more effectively than happened here.

Yes! This is exactly the point (amongst others) that I'm making over here: http://community.autism.org.uk/discussions/feedback/website-problems-suggestions/moderation-respect-offensive-language

(though I probably didn't word it quite as well)

Can we please "draw a line under this one" ie just forget it....please.

The problem with just dropping it and forgetting about it is that then nothing will change.

I do however think the discussion needs to be moved out of this thread.

Hence my starting the above linked to thread.

Perhaps we could continue it there?

longman said:

What I would ask for is a lttle more understanding of spectrum behaviour. By the very nature of the condition we are inclined to perseverate. We tend to go on and on about things long after the initial context has been exhausted. I do it often, and it gets me into all kinds of trouble.

The NT perspective (and I use NT to represent people not on the spectrum) is very different. They tend to forget what they've said or done a short time after it has arisen, because the context no longer requires it.

For some reason due to the condition we have trouble forgetting or forgiving a perceived sleight. I think it partly arises from the need to analyse what has been said or done, because we aren't able to read context very efficiently.

So this sort of conflict is likely to happen often on an autism community discussion site.

I wondered if the moderators could take account of this. Its symptomatic of the condition and ought to be something the moderators are equipped to handle. It may be they can establish a means of diffusing the situation more effectively than happened here.

Yes! This is exactly the point (amongst others) that I'm making over here: http://community.autism.org.uk/discussions/feedback/website-problems-suggestions/moderation-respect-offensive-language

(though I probably didn't word it quite as well)

Can we please "draw a line under this one" ie just forget it....please.

The problem with just dropping it and forgetting about it is that then nothing will change.

I do however think the discussion needs to be moved out of this thread.

Hence my starting the above linked to thread.

Perhaps we could continue it there?