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How old is everyone and how does aspergers effect you day to day?

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Just wondering how aspergers or other autisim diabilities effects everypne as well.

So yeah, I'm 22 and found out that I had aspergers a few months ago. I notice it's effecting my everyday life but the thing is I think it's not the "main" thing what's effecting my daily life apart from the communication side and the expressing emotions. But I have OCD linked with aspergers and this is what's effecting my daily life. With all the rituals because of my anxiety, thinking of colours, bright lines of light going in a certain direction, having to look left for a colour that feels "right" and then right for a colour that feels "right" and certain colours means bad things are going to happen, I get easily annoyed and irratated at home etc etc.

Also, when I'm out every Saturday with my friends, I find it very difficult to think of new subjects to talk about so I repeat the same subjects over and over again, I get bored easily because we don't do anything interesting quite a lot of the time, I prefer spending time on my own instead of being with other people, I collect Blu Rays, games, I keep receipts of everything I buy so I know the exact time and date I bought it. Also I started to do this thing where whenever I start watching a movie on Blu Ray, I write on a peice of paper the exact time I started watching the movie, the date I watched the movie and the time I finished watching the movie and I write any other relevant details on it as well.

I find it really difficult to think of subjects to talk about and to speak to someone I don't know very well and I have only 3 close frienda which are not that close because I only see them once a week. Sometimes, I just get a bit depressed because I have no close friends that are girls and I really want to go clubbing to meet new people but I find it extremely difficult and uncomfortable when I went last time and it caused a lot of anxiety. I feel lonely but I enjoy doing everything I like on my own at the same time. It's just so complex with these disabilities.I feel like noone can understand me and I can't even understand myself at times.

When communicating, I find it difficult to say what I wanted to say, like I think of something, then the words come out differently to what I meant, This only happens when I'm speaking to people that I don't know very well. And before I say anything to someone, I always think really hard about the outcome and I think, probably it's not good to say this, or they'll find it boring, rudem, offensive etc etc or they don't want to speak to me!

I think this probably is why I tend to withdraw myself from everyone even my family because I spend all my time in my room on video games and the computer doing the same thing for a long period of time on my days off work and after work everyday. I feel less stressed at work!

And yeah, this is another problem I just realised about myself, when I try to get to a point or just a simple question to describe what I mean, I end up going into way more detail than required to describe what I really want the answers to be from someone else. I need things spoken / explained to me and presented to me as clear as possible and in the appropiate and easiest language for me to understand otherwise I get confused.

Does the aspergers effect anyone else in a simular way?

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  • Hi Hawk256.

    I am quite old at 47 and only resently found I have ASD. I know what you mean about colours with me it is the colour red if I saw say three red cars my anxiety would go though the roof and i would think somthing really bad would happen. I also had the trouble you have with meeting new people, i would be Ok talking to some one for about ten mins or so and then things would start to go weird and i would say things in a panic and i would make me seem rude. I only have one close friend and she can only take me in small doses. I get a lot of plesure form bird watching and used to spend all day on my own in the woods or out in the hills but i resently stared going to RSPB meeting and find that because the people there have a common intrest with me in wildlife I find that I can comuitcate with them alot more easily because I know that the conversation will stay within given paramiters. I is also a good hobby for the likes of us because you get to learn list of names and make list of all the birds you see and where and when you see them. So maybe if you find other people that share a common interst with yourself you can meet new people without so much of the anxiety and you would not feel quite so lonely, it worked for meSmile. 

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  • Hi Hawk256.

    I am quite old at 47 and only resently found I have ASD. I know what you mean about colours with me it is the colour red if I saw say three red cars my anxiety would go though the roof and i would think somthing really bad would happen. I also had the trouble you have with meeting new people, i would be Ok talking to some one for about ten mins or so and then things would start to go weird and i would say things in a panic and i would make me seem rude. I only have one close friend and she can only take me in small doses. I get a lot of plesure form bird watching and used to spend all day on my own in the woods or out in the hills but i resently stared going to RSPB meeting and find that because the people there have a common intrest with me in wildlife I find that I can comuitcate with them alot more easily because I know that the conversation will stay within given paramiters. I is also a good hobby for the likes of us because you get to learn list of names and make list of all the birds you see and where and when you see them. So maybe if you find other people that share a common interst with yourself you can meet new people without so much of the anxiety and you would not feel quite so lonely, it worked for meSmile. 

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