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Does anyone else struggle to concentrate in a conversation?

Jordan

I feel like I can't concentrate on what someone is saying to me about anything unless I'm really interested, I was on the phone with someone talking about issues and what problems and questions I had, and I could not concentrate for the life of me and I only bearly only heard a bit of what they were saying, so it's pretty one sided 

I don't know if the person I was talking to had the same problem but I feel rude to ask them to repeat it as they were talking for ages

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  • I get similar to this a lot of the time. I'm also adhd as well as autism and at times I shut down from conversations and it's like I'm still saying yes and no but their voices are distant and I'm not really listening. This got me heaps at school and I'm often accused of not listening intentionally, it's not intentional it's just I switch off. Maybe the conversation starts to bore me? I don't know. I think it's a lot to do with being bored and irritable. If I'm hyper that particular day then I can't function and stay in the moment. All has an effect.

    Most of my conversations are one sided. By the end I can hardly even remember what was said.

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  • I get similar to this a lot of the time. I'm also adhd as well as autism and at times I shut down from conversations and it's like I'm still saying yes and no but their voices are distant and I'm not really listening. This got me heaps at school and I'm often accused of not listening intentionally, it's not intentional it's just I switch off. Maybe the conversation starts to bore me? I don't know. I think it's a lot to do with being bored and irritable. If I'm hyper that particular day then I can't function and stay in the moment. All has an effect.

    Most of my conversations are one sided. By the end I can hardly even remember what was said.

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  • in reply to Smiles

    I learned to fake it and also developed fairly good recall and reassembly skills to the extent that people often commented on "what a good listener I was".  

    Curiously, I find Yoda's "Reverse Polish Notation" way of speaking remarkably efficient, and the "yoda" patch makes my sat nav much more useful. 

    But when some of my friends start telling me something, I know the information they offer is always about five minutes down the line*, and all I can do is "set my face to impassive", and wait... 

    And sometimes, if they are feeling especially eloquent, wait a whole lot more.

    I've field tested "spazzing out" and screaming "just give me the effing information!" and I can save the reader a lot of trouble. It never works... ;c)

    *I'm just telling it from my perspective, doubtless getting information out of me is just as tiresome for them. Or maybe it isn't?