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Does anyone else struggle to concentrate in a conversation?

Jordan

I feel like I can't concentrate on what someone is saying to me about anything unless I'm really interested, I was on the phone with someone talking about issues and what problems and questions I had, and I could not concentrate for the life of me and I only bearly only heard a bit of what they were saying, so it's pretty one sided 

I don't know if the person I was talking to had the same problem but I feel rude to ask them to repeat it as they were talking for ages

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  • I have some questions.

    1) When you say concentrate, do you mean that you're having issues with focusing as a stand-alone problem, or that things heard, is not being picked up by your brain? In the second case, you will automatically lose focus, and think about something else. That in turn leads that you don't concentrate on the conversation but concentrate on something else, which then actually is not a concentration problem but more of an attention issue. If the topic is interested, your attention will be greater, but it can still be limited on how much your brain is able to process. There are many things I pay attention to, concentrate ... which I have interest in, let say watch a documentary about an historic event, like WW1/2. At the end of it I still will feel that I missed lots of info and specially being able to reflect on the things I just watched. Much of it is in the back of my brain, but I need help to retain it, to be able to speak about it, but even then I will feel limited compared to how others will view it.

    2) When you say that, you do listen when you are interested. How is this different? How much more involved can you be? 

    3) You mention the other person had autism, but could talk for ages, isn't that strange? And he was speaking about your problems and questions. I mean wouldn't that be of an interest for you, as it's about you?

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  • I have some questions.

    1) When you say concentrate, do you mean that you're having issues with focusing as a stand-alone problem, or that things heard, is not being picked up by your brain? In the second case, you will automatically lose focus, and think about something else. That in turn leads that you don't concentrate on the conversation but concentrate on something else, which then actually is not a concentration problem but more of an attention issue. If the topic is interested, your attention will be greater, but it can still be limited on how much your brain is able to process. There are many things I pay attention to, concentrate ... which I have interest in, let say watch a documentary about an historic event, like WW1/2. At the end of it I still will feel that I missed lots of info and specially being able to reflect on the things I just watched. Much of it is in the back of my brain, but I need help to retain it, to be able to speak about it, but even then I will feel limited compared to how others will view it.

    2) When you say that, you do listen when you are interested. How is this different? How much more involved can you be? 

    3) You mention the other person had autism, but could talk for ages, isn't that strange? And he was speaking about your problems and questions. I mean wouldn't that be of an interest for you, as it's about you?

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