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Does anyone have a non-autistic partner?

kiki

Whereas I am autistic, my girlfriend is not. I sometimes worry that this is too large a difference between us and that it makes us incompatible. However, she is extremely supportive of me and incredibly willing to meet my needs.

If we are in a loud environment but I am too embarrassed to put my headphones on, she will encourage me to do so. She is an artist, and even hand made me communication cards (she designed, drew, painted and laminated them) for when I am overwhelmed. 

What is something your partner does to support your needs as an autistic individual?

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  • Hi, my wife is not autistic, we have been married for 30 years and together for 35 years. I think it is true that opposites attract. The same as Martin, my wife organises everything, weddings and other significant occasions just need planning and loads of notice. To say it’s all easy would be a lie, on my part I just have to be honest with her, as time has gone on she now picks up on how I’m acting. Last week we were in the village pub, there was scented candles on the bar, she noticed that I was stimming. She asked if I wanted to move further away or go home. What I have to try and remember is that she is entitled to a life as well. It’s a big learning curve.

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  • Hi, my wife is not autistic, we have been married for 30 years and together for 35 years. I think it is true that opposites attract. The same as Martin, my wife organises everything, weddings and other significant occasions just need planning and loads of notice. To say it’s all easy would be a lie, on my part I just have to be honest with her, as time has gone on she now picks up on how I’m acting. Last week we were in the village pub, there was scented candles on the bar, she noticed that I was stimming. She asked if I wanted to move further away or go home. What I have to try and remember is that she is entitled to a life as well. It’s a big learning curve.

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