Some help would be nice (Venting)

Before I continue, this is not a plea for help from fellow members, but a need to vent.

I am Autistic and my son (an adult) is NT. In addition to my Autism, I have a physical condition (hypothyroidism) that can often cause me to feel physically drained and lacking in energy. My son is aware of this and there are some chores he does for me without needing to be asked. For example, my washing machine is in my kitchen, but my tumble dryer is in a different part of the house that involves walking down a set of stairs. If laundry needs transferring from the washing machine to the tumble dryer, this is something my son will do because I struggle with the weight. He will also pop to the supermarket or our local shop for me.

Sometimes, when there is a pile of washing-up building up, to the extent of there being no clean cutlery and crockery, my son will fill the sink and leave washing-up to soak, but then not get around to actually doing any washing-up. Agh! Whilst the smell of stagnant water in the washing-up bowl doesn't seem to bother my son, it certainly bothers me when I then have to tip it down the sink. The smell causes me to feel incredibly queasy, and my son knows this.

Today, I am sitting in my kitchen looking at a pile of washing-up, and a pile of stuff that needs to be put in the recycling bags I have. I am not houseproud, but the sight of it is bothering me. Whilst I know there are things my son does to assist me, I just wish he would take the initiative sometimes and help with more of the housework without needing to be asked.

Sorry, I just had to get all that off my chest.

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  • I live alone for 3 years now, and I do venting pacing in front of the mirror frequently

    I get the part about being bothered, it bothers me too, I used to be better at doing housechores, my flat turned into a mess during last year

    about your's son's initiative - men are usually reluctant to do housechores, most of them totally clueless - society's influence I reckon

  • Before my NT father flew the family nest, his mother had been determined that he be an independent man in every sense of the word. When I was growing up, he would pitch in with the housework and cooking. Back then, he was considered something of a rarity. Needless to say, many of my mother's friends were quite envious because their husbands had a rather outdated and sexist belief that housework was a woman's job.

    If my dad could see that something housework-related needed doing, he would just get on with it without needing to be asked. Perhaps because that had all seemed perfectly normal to me, it's resulted in the expectations I have being too high?

  • not to high, they all have it all wrong

    I'm allergic to misconceptions

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