Earliest Memory

Having now been a member of the NAS Community for approximately a fortnight, I thought it was about time I got around to starting a discussion, as opposed to simply commenting on discussions started by other members.

The following is an event that happened more than 40 years ago (before anyone knew I was autistic), which I remember in full technicolour glory...

As I had no siblings, my mother had been keen to socialise me with other children before I started nursery school, so had taken me to a playgroup. I guess this means that I would have been aged about 3 or 4 years old.

The playgroup was in a room at the town's rugby club, and the rugby club was located in the town's large park, where there was also a leisure centre and outdoor ski slope.

I remember walking into this room (the playgroup), and my senses being hit by an overwhelming and unpleasant smell of plasticine, along with other smells/odours that I considered equally as unpleasant.

Some of the children were playing together, whilst others were playing on their own. My mother was keen for me to join them, but I didn't want to and refused to leave her side. The more she and the playgroup staff attempted to persuade me to join the other children, the more I protested and insisted that I wanted to be taken back home. Being in this strange and unfamiliar environment was just too traumatic for me. In hindsight, I guess I'd displayed all the hallmarks of an autistic meltdown.

Fortunately (for me), I had caused my mother so much stress that day that she never attempted to take me back to that playgroup.

If you are on the spectrum, do you have any vivid memories of early childhood?


Edited to add: I thought I would ask this question because I sometimes wonder if those of us who are on the Spectrum are better at remembering events from our early childhood.

Also, if your memories are traumatic, please don't feel obliged to share them unless you feel comfortable doing so.

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  • I'm in the rare position of being able to put an exact(ish) time and precise date to my earliest memory. 18th Oct 1980, a fraction after 6 pm. Watching the penultimate scene of the 1980 Doctor Who story Meglos in the house I lived in until I was seven. I was five days past my third birthday. I'm a lifelong DW fan, so there's something comforting looking back to my earliest memory and the Doctor already being there for me.  

  • Wow! I am so impressed that you can remember the precise date, and also the time. Thank you for sharing that memory Shardovan.

    Are you one of those people that excels at remembering things like phone numbers? I have a relation who can go through the extended family tree and list the dates that everyone was born, got married, died, etc. The extended family tree is vast, and this is a person that is now in their nineties. I honestly don't know how they can remember all that information so easily.

  • Ah, well I have to confess that I have no talent whatsoever in that regard. I just, er, looked it up. It never got a repeat showing (until UK Gold in the Nineties I think) so it had to be when it first went out. I mean I remembered more broadly that  it would have been October, as I'm enough of a nerd to know broadly months each story got broadcast across etc. And it was an atypically short episode (19 mins - an underrun they had to get special permission for as that was very frowned upon) so I just took the start time and counted forward to about minute 16/17 :-)

    I'm envious of those with idetic memories. Oddly, for special interest related stuff I have good powers of long-term retention. Anything else, anything practical - atrocious. 

    My granny could do exactly what you describe of your relative - she died aged 96 ast year and until nearly the very end had perfect recall of all that kind of stuff: family, friends, community all filed precisely in her memory. I can't even remember the names of 90% of the people I went to school with. And almost as few faces. 

    Maybe it's embarrassing that even my next earliest memories are mostly of watching Who as well: bits of stories from Peter Davison's first season in the role. Still my favourite era of the show (still feels like a weird dream that Tegan - my all-time fave companion) is coming back in Jodie's final episode!)

    Sandwiched somewhere in the middle though is this very vivid memory of sitting on the living room carpet (probably with a toy or two) with a bit of warm sunlight coming in, and my mother putting on a record. The piece of music was beautiful and, aged 3 or 4, gave me my first experience of something perhaps best described as pleasant melancholy - the sudden conscious recognition that wistfulness/sadness/tenderness could be a rich and intoxicating experience, if a bit overwhelming! This was felt - privately- rather than expressed in tears or anything and of course I had no access to a vocabulary that would have let myself internally articulate it to myself in the way I just have. Anyway, the record was in our house for years and I saved it from the skip not too long ago, even though I've long since downloaded it (minus the warm crackle of vinyl though, sadly). 

    The track is called Carillon, by Sky, and remains one of my all time favourite pieces of music. I got the sheet music for it a little while ago and can now play a simple version of it on the piano. On the days I can handle that much nostalgia that is! 

    Just adding that I enjoyed your relating of your own earliest memories - I can remember that similar 'assault on the senses' feeling of the first days at play school - the smell of wood floors and plasteceine and poster paints, very similar to your own experience. There was a big wooden slide there too which I vividly recall going down. It's still there actually (the exact same slide), and the place feels/smells the same even now. I picked my nephew up from it a year or so back a couple of times before he went to 'big school' 

  • I hope I haven’t set you both up for disappointment! 

  • Ha, well if you insist…

    It’s a rumour that’s been on the go for about two months. Initially there was, and remains, a lot of scepticism about it but one or two very reliably connected sources (having laughed it off to begin with) are now saying it’s almost certainly true. What they’re unclear on is whether it’s a brief return as the 10th Doctor  for the 60th special next year, or if he’d be playing a 14th Doctor with a totally different personality, accent, costume etc. before handing over a year or so later to a 15th Doctor possibly already cast. 

    A ratings bounce year might reproduce the effect of Eccleston’s springboard season so it would make a kind of sense. 

    Especially as the Oct 2022 special was for a time going to be winding the show down for the foreseeable (hence the 80s companions coming back for one last bow, bookending some milestone returns from the 60s and 70s  with a final mirroring as they put it to bed) but good old RTD has saved the day. Hopefully he’ll work his magic once again and get the shows mojo fully back. 

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  • Ha, well if you insist…

    It’s a rumour that’s been on the go for about two months. Initially there was, and remains, a lot of scepticism about it but one or two very reliably connected sources (having laughed it off to begin with) are now saying it’s almost certainly true. What they’re unclear on is whether it’s a brief return as the 10th Doctor  for the 60th special next year, or if he’d be playing a 14th Doctor with a totally different personality, accent, costume etc. before handing over a year or so later to a 15th Doctor possibly already cast. 

    A ratings bounce year might reproduce the effect of Eccleston’s springboard season so it would make a kind of sense. 

    Especially as the Oct 2022 special was for a time going to be winding the show down for the foreseeable (hence the 80s companions coming back for one last bow, bookending some milestone returns from the 60s and 70s  with a final mirroring as they put it to bed) but good old RTD has saved the day. Hopefully he’ll work his magic once again and get the shows mojo fully back. 

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