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Should people with Aspergers or others on the autistic spectrum have children?

NAS78513

I've got it mildly (officially anyway, I think I might have been wrongly diagnosed, but that's a different story) and it's only got better as I've got older (some experts do think that it can actually go away as you get older, but again, another story). Even so, it has caused me some problems, especially when I was younger. I have no doubt that my life would've been easier without it. Anyway, I sort of want children but sort of don't, for a few reasons, one of which would be giving it to them (if I've got it, perhaps I'm just a little odd lol). What are the chances that they'd get it, and (this is a bit controversial I know) do you think people with it who have children are selfish? It can and does cause an awful lot of misery.

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  • NAS78513 said:
    some experts do think that it can actually go away as you get older, but again, another story

    I'd like to know who these experts are.

    NAS78513 said:
    Anyway, I sort of want children but sort of don't, for a few reasons, one of which would be giving it to them (if I've got it, perhaps I'm just a little odd lol). What are the chances that they'd get it, and (this is a bit controversial I know) do you think people with it who have children are selfish? It can and does cause an awful lot of misery.

    If they get autism it may be a vert different experience of autism from you. Their experience of growing up autistic would be different from yours. Particularly since you'll be able to offer them a different kind of parenting from your parents. I think people who have children for selfish reasons can be awful. Who have children because they think a child will be a guaranteed of judgment free unconditional love. (believe me few will ever judge you as much as your own children) People who have children to be extensions of their aspirations. To carry on the family business or succeed in the projects they once failed in.

    Having children for the joy of giving new life and allowing it to find its own happiness is lord-able. Because you think you've something good to pass on.

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  • NAS78513 said:
    some experts do think that it can actually go away as you get older, but again, another story

    I'd like to know who these experts are.

    NAS78513 said:
    Anyway, I sort of want children but sort of don't, for a few reasons, one of which would be giving it to them (if I've got it, perhaps I'm just a little odd lol). What are the chances that they'd get it, and (this is a bit controversial I know) do you think people with it who have children are selfish? It can and does cause an awful lot of misery.

    If they get autism it may be a vert different experience of autism from you. Their experience of growing up autistic would be different from yours. Particularly since you'll be able to offer them a different kind of parenting from your parents. I think people who have children for selfish reasons can be awful. Who have children because they think a child will be a guaranteed of judgment free unconditional love. (believe me few will ever judge you as much as your own children) People who have children to be extensions of their aspirations. To carry on the family business or succeed in the projects they once failed in.

    Having children for the joy of giving new life and allowing it to find its own happiness is lord-able. Because you think you've something good to pass on.

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