How do I get undiagnosed with Asperger's?

There are a few particular markers that make us autistic and it's good to have a diagnostic if so. On a high note, tons of tech companies prefer autistic employees. Because of certain ways we naturally think, perceive and reason, we are more loyal, more honest. If we are diligent and disciplined and vigilant, we can tap a natural authenticity, apply ethics and be Very Dependable Humans with a solid integrity. We are not necessarily wired for competition but cooperation. That doesn't mean we won't fight, it means we don't play games. We naturally see through games. In fact, we might be fierce about protecting what we love. Monotropism is a marker. Sensory issues can be markers. And missing social cues. We also might see details better and seemingly invisible 'systems'.

This is one of my favourite bloggers: https://autcollab.org/2020/04/30/autism-the-cultural-immune-system-of-human-societies/?fbclid=IwAR37xumHkRga0hADICA80wxaWycn7_Kr9Oc6uZhcs2zJ0QzamXOI4qwU2bQ

I also like this psychologist https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qpitsA-0pBQ 

But if none of this feels like you, then yes. Perhaps you were misdiagnosed. 

I do have a couple of the symptoms, but I think that the ones I don't are more telling. For example I'm not socially awkward, I always had lots of friends at school, whereas others with Aspergers tended to have few, if any. I'm not Casanova by any means, but I've had a few girlfriends, whereas some people I know with Aspergers always struggled in that department and a few are still virgins at 30.

I get it. My father is undiagnosed but married twice and still married to his second wife. He claims to be an extrovert. He builds computers to deal with things which go to the moon or uranium or super collider stuff. Some men get a free pass socially. They're interesting enough to overlook the fact that they've missed social cues. Or they come from good families who taught them fundamental morals and they exude that. 

I learned amazing practical ways to build and establish relationships and to create healthy boundaries and choose the friends I want. Some people think I'm eccentric but I fall back on good principles. It's only recently my best friend and I had a conversation where we realised there was a stark difference between our socialising. While she can recognise seemingly invisible cues, she despises the power struggles and just refuses to play along. She's shunned occasionally but doesn't really care. I, on the other hand, don't catch most cues and only have language to work with, but spending years working on integrating my internal and external self and not having taken to the shame-guilt coding of neurotypical society, don't always respond correct though I'd like to play along and don't just get shunned. Women get mean - angry. Almost vengeful. My friend experienced it with me a few times in different situations and it's always puzzled her. But I appear quite liberated and it, frankly, enrages certain highly competitive females. [shrug]. Blessing? Curse? 

That's my autistic wiring. We're human, so we're all different. Most Neurotypical individuals can appear to have the same traits too, but they're not the same. 

I get it. My father is undiagnosed but married twice and still married to his second wife. He claims to be an extrovert. He builds computers to deal with things which go to the moon or uranium or super collider stuff. Some men get a free pass socially. They're interesting enough to overlook the fact that they've missed social cues. Or they come from good families who taught them fundamental morals and they exude that. 

I learned amazing practical ways to build and establish relationships and to create healthy boundaries and choose the friends I want. Some people think I'm eccentric but I fall back on good principles. It's only recently my best friend and I had a conversation where we realised there was a stark difference between our socialising. While she can recognise seemingly invisible cues, she despises the power struggles and just refuses to play along. She's shunned occasionally but doesn't really care. I, on the other hand, don't catch most cues and only have language to work with, but spending years working on integrating my internal and external self and not having taken to the shame-guilt coding of neurotypical society, don't always respond correct though I'd like to play along and don't just get shunned. Women get mean - angry. Almost vengeful. My friend experienced it with me a few times in different situations and it's always puzzled her. But I appear quite liberated and it, frankly, enrages certain highly competitive females. [shrug]. Blessing? Curse? 

That's my autistic wiring. We're human, so we're all different. Most Neurotypical individuals can appear to have the same traits too, but they're not the same.