Responding to private messages

OK.  I'm probably being a bit dense here.  It just seems very hitty-missy when I respond, or try to repond to private messages here.  Is there supposed to be a reply button?  I can't see one.  And if I hit the option to send a message, it does open up a box at the top, but then when I send anything it seems to disappear into nowhere.  Must be doing something wrong here.  Anyone who's sent me a message, please bear with me while I suss it out. 

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  •  think you should be seeing a side panel to the left with a record of your sent messages.  It maybe something in your settings.

    What I find odd is that if someone sends me a friend request there's often a little message with it, but as soon as I click on that the message disappears, so I don't know what the person said.

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  •  think you should be seeing a side panel to the left with a record of your sent messages.  It maybe something in your settings.

    What I find odd is that if someone sends me a friend request there's often a little message with it, but as soon as I click on that the message disappears, so I don't know what the person said.

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