Need help making friends

I have the problem of being able to make friends but those friends not reciprocating in the effort of asking me to hangout and it's always on me to initiate which in the end I end up hating. Then I drop the friendship like a cold stone.

Oh! That is pretty brave. I’m kinda socially anxious myself as well. I game online mainly. 

I like this advice/approach - it’s very positive and I’m glad it’s worked for you. My son couldn’t do this though (although I’m sure he would love to) because his social anxiety is quite severe. He really would love to have some friends and a girlfriend but he finds it very hard to talk to people. In educational settings he has selective mutism. However with people he knows well (family mainly) he is very talkative. He’s really intelligent, has a great sense of humour, is really kind and considerate, very good looking, if he didn’t have social anxiety I think he’d have wonderful friendships etc - but it’s that initial barrier of social anxiety that stops him bind able to connect with people. It’s so difficult for him. 

 I shoot the breeze with people that i know already have something in common with me. Bumper stickers on cars as we load groceries, pins on baristas aprons that resonate with me, people in the same book genre section in the library, etc. And then I say something like "I don't know about you, but making friends as adults is weird. I'd love to maybe go on a walk or get coffee with you sometime. What do you think?". So far, I've done this roughly five times and it's been a success each time. We meet up and go from there. Two of them didn't make it past the first friend date, but I'm friends now with three people. And truth is, if someone says no, that's okay too. I don't really take it personally. The key for me though is to be genuine and sincere.

Hi, I recently turned 18 and am also in need of finding good friends. Unfortunately, I'm in the states, so I'm open to being online gaming friends if you are.

Hi Anna 

I'm so sorry 

I'm new to here and didn't realise. Will remember this for future reference xx

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Hi my email is [Edited by Moderator] if you want to communicate through this and I can send you my son's tag id for the ps x

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Hi, he prefers to game on his ps4, his ID on this community is Android Apex xx

Hey sorry I replied in wrong place . I understand why he would be worried. Let me know how you would like me to send his Id and also what your son plays or like PC or ps xx

Course I understand that completely . How would you like me to send it ? What does he play on PC or ps ? Xx

question is do you need to meet that friend in real life, I realised after many years that I don't have a need to see my friends in RL

That would be wonderful, thank you so much, at the moment my son is so nervous at starting new friendships incase the same thing happens again

Hi there 

If your son would like to play online with my son he would be happy as he has had same problem. He had people who  just deserted him and ignore him  I can send you my son's id name so your son could add him if you would like ? Xx

Hi, my son is 19 and he too hasn't many friends, he used to play online games with a few Americans until they just seemed to turn against him, they now totally ignore him, this has left him with a deep mistrust of people. Online gaming was the only social outreach he had

Hi there are you interested in gaming ? My son is 20 and he does not have many friends. He probably doesn't live close though 

join some clubs --- model building clubs, board game clubs  or any club that does something u that would be interested in.