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Father revealed my Asperger's diagnosis

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A few months ago, I received a late diagnosis of Asperger's and ADD, together with auditory processing and dyslexic issues. I am coming to terms with it myself, and although I have said I am not ashamed of it and do not care if anyone knows, I have only told a select few so far. Colleagues from 'my past life' are unaware, and I hesitate to share the diagnosis with them, feeling that they will view all my actions through the prism of autism. I am also conscious of my own prejudice and wonder if I will see my 'weirdness' (father has asked 'What is wrong with you??. Everyone says that you are always on your own.) reflected when I meet other people Aspies. I've only met one another who was reassuringly 'normal', i.e. according to my criteria.  My father spoke to a relative on the phone today and said that I had 'Asperger's, a touch of autism'. I was furious that he had divulged it and said it was my call to let others know, yet he said he was my father and had every right. Am I unreasonable?

  • I mean yeah he screwed up but holding a grudge about it probably won’t help you in anyway. If it really bothers you you should challenge him about it more forcefully but after that I’d let it go if I were you.

  • Anything classified as medical is PRIVATE. Though someday we may be just another type of intelligent human & autism won't be a stigma (perhaps). All medical issues are classified as confidential https://www.rethink.org/advice-and-information/carers-hub/confidentiality-and-information-sharing-for-carers-friends-and-family/

    "I would appreciate if you withheld sharing this information with anyone right now as I'm still processing it", is what I would say. Now, my father would respect this but my mother is incapable of discretion out of respect. She cannot even understand the ethics involved, so I tell her nothing. 

    As for being weird, meh. I think about how weird normal society is. Most suffer cognitive issues if one gets to deep and start to fizzle like a robot in the rain. Many need a fantasy of assurance that they're 'happy'. There's a strange disconnect between an overwhelming world and their ability to just think everything is normal. As for weird, it depends on what social strata one is on as well. There are individuals who are part of extreme sub-cultures and ritual underground societies. The more one thinks on it, it becomes increasingly important to study ways of being a better human, but not from every day society. I prefer ideals of thinkers from various times in history and try to adapt aesthetic ways of being which I admire. Weird or not. :) 

  • No, it is a breach of trust. Only you have the right to decide who is informed.