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What advice would you give to your younger self ?

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Many flashbacks occasionally come to mind of when I was a child/young adult. Usually awkward moments or times I was emotionally devastated by cruel comments.

So what would I say to that little emotionally  tortured boy, now I’m in my mid fifties?

  • Its ok to see the world differently
  • Don’t give away your trust so easily 
  • The cool people aren’t cool at all
  • Never, never feel second best
  • One day it will all make sense 
  • Sensitivity is a gift. Don’t hide it
  • If you’re exhausted, say so
  • Masking works, but paybacks a ***
  • You will be betrayed or bullied by people you thought were on your side. Choose who you confide in carefully 
  • You have to take care of your self worth and your place in the world. No one else will.
  • If you need to curl up into a ball and hide for a day, just do it. Give yourself a break.
  • You’ll meet a girl / woman, in time, who’ll also be a ‘sensitive’. The sex will be amazing!
  • Nothing lasts forever 
  • Good luck young man. Be brave x

What would you say to the younger you?

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  • probably nothing.... everything i do i consider correct and instinctual... i lived my life through what i felt, i didnt allow myself to be forced down one path or another or to so something, i always resisted any forced choice, i only acted and did things when i felt i myself was ready for it, i lived by instinct and i feel there is nothing i could have done better. and certainly nothing i could say which my younger self would listen to or act on because my younger self wouldnt have felt right for whatever it is or ready at the time. its all well and good saying get a job get a education do this do that, your younger self at the time wouldnt have felt ready for it which is why you didnt do that in the first place, forcing yourself to do something for better future just makes you miserable if your not ready mentally for it. it has to be your own instinctful natural choice or it will always be misery.

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  • probably nothing.... everything i do i consider correct and instinctual... i lived my life through what i felt, i didnt allow myself to be forced down one path or another or to so something, i always resisted any forced choice, i only acted and did things when i felt i myself was ready for it, i lived by instinct and i feel there is nothing i could have done better. and certainly nothing i could say which my younger self would listen to or act on because my younger self wouldnt have felt right for whatever it is or ready at the time. its all well and good saying get a job get a education do this do that, your younger self at the time wouldnt have felt ready for it which is why you didnt do that in the first place, forcing yourself to do something for better future just makes you miserable if your not ready mentally for it. it has to be your own instinctful natural choice or it will always be misery.

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