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Feeling alone

Laurensimmo

Not sure if this belongs in this section, but I don’t have anyone else to speak to about this! I have suspected I have Autism for many many years now but like many, my mum doesn’t believe in ‘labels’ (despite being a psychiatric nurse!). My family and partner all agree I have quite a few autistic traits and I have recently put myself forward for a diagnosis which I’m still waiting for. It would explain so so much to me, like why I always felt ‘different’ or ‘weird’ to my peers. However every time I say something about it, for instance a tweet about someone who got diagnosed and their constant fatigue made sense to them (I have been struggling with this since early teens), it’s shrugged off as ‘well that’s normal, that could mean anything, loads of people feel that way’. It’s just really disheartening and makes me feel as if I’m just label or attention seeking. Apologies for the mini rant, just feeling alone and not sure what to do

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  • Hi, thanks for joining :) 

    you’re definitely not alone. I saw lots of autistic traits in myself for years, before finally pursuing assessment and getting a formal diagnosis last month. I’m also going through doubt from family, I know how dismissive it can feel when someone says, ‘well, everyone experiences that,’ or tries to explain away aspects of your life through other means. I find that what I need is validation: someone to recognise both my struggles and also the nicer things that can arise from autism. i’m compiling a list of my traits and aspects of my experience which feel aligned with autistic stuff, and that’s something I’m finding helpful just for myself. It could be that as a later stage, I give this missed to family members, to see if this helps us understand each other a little better. but really, try to trust that you know yourself. I hope your assessment brings you what you need, and that your mum gives you the recognition you need and deserve. 
    Take care.

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  • Hi, thanks for joining :) 

    you’re definitely not alone. I saw lots of autistic traits in myself for years, before finally pursuing assessment and getting a formal diagnosis last month. I’m also going through doubt from family, I know how dismissive it can feel when someone says, ‘well, everyone experiences that,’ or tries to explain away aspects of your life through other means. I find that what I need is validation: someone to recognise both my struggles and also the nicer things that can arise from autism. i’m compiling a list of my traits and aspects of my experience which feel aligned with autistic stuff, and that’s something I’m finding helpful just for myself. It could be that as a later stage, I give this missed to family members, to see if this helps us understand each other a little better. but really, try to trust that you know yourself. I hope your assessment brings you what you need, and that your mum gives you the recognition you need and deserve. 
    Take care.

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