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Scared about lockdown restrictions being lifted

NAS73354

Hi, I'm Chris and I'm new here.

I feel scared about the lifting of lockdown restrictions. I'm on the spectrum, I'm 53. With lockdown restrictions, I didn't have to deal with the outside world too much. But as lockdown restrictions are being eased, the impatience of everyone else is very scary. Are there any fellow autistics who feel the same as me. 

I am married with no children. I live in Bermondsey.

Thanks

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  • I discovered I was autistic because of how my anxiety lifted during the pandemic so I'm definitely anxious. I've recently started a new job and I have to work in the office one day a week and it takes a lot out of me. To think about working full-time from the office is extremely overwhelming. I work in a tiny office of 4 desks and currently can share it with 1 other person, but that is enough to overwhelm me. 

    My husband is also NT and now wants to socialise more, including having friends in our house. This shouldn't be such an issue but I really hate people being in my safe space. I would happily continue in lockdown-like restrictions for the rest of life. Wouldn't it be nice to keep everything local anyway and have a smaller life? Maybe a lot of people disagree but for me I've never worried about lockdown easing because of the virus, I know what I can do to reduce my risk of that and I'm fortunate to be young and healthy, but because of how I mentally cope because of autism.

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    M said:
    Maybe a lot of people disagree but for me I've never worried about lockdown easing because of the virus

    I completely agree. I got my diagnosis in lockdown and have had a taste of a world which is quite suitable for me. Now  it's changing back into something I find inherently difficult.

    How have you addressed it with your husband? My partner is very good but I am starting to feel the expectation we should start doing more stuff. I've realised this is a form of masking of going along with things and it's not about being a pushover or a people pleaser. It's kind of "this is what you do".  However now I've seen another side to life because of lockdown and am more than content with being at home and I don't feel a need to be going out more. I explained this to him as that i have another perspective which is just as valid. It occured to me that my needs are just as valid as his and rather than me putting on myself to meet his needs, he could be more accommodating to mine. (And we meet in the middle somewhere cos he's a brilliant person).

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  • in reply to M
    M said:
    Maybe a lot of people disagree but for me I've never worried about lockdown easing because of the virus

    I completely agree. I got my diagnosis in lockdown and have had a taste of a world which is quite suitable for me. Now  it's changing back into something I find inherently difficult.

    How have you addressed it with your husband? My partner is very good but I am starting to feel the expectation we should start doing more stuff. I've realised this is a form of masking of going along with things and it's not about being a pushover or a people pleaser. It's kind of "this is what you do".  However now I've seen another side to life because of lockdown and am more than content with being at home and I don't feel a need to be going out more. I explained this to him as that i have another perspective which is just as valid. It occured to me that my needs are just as valid as his and rather than me putting on myself to meet his needs, he could be more accommodating to mine. (And we meet in the middle somewhere cos he's a brilliant person).

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