Im f17.
My mum won't listen when I say I struggle with things. Chores can be an issue, as when I am not told to do specific things, I won't. I do exactly what I am told to do, like today she asked me to clean the shared bathroom and hoover the hall. She knows I can't stand the hoover noise but I wore earphones and it was less stressful. So yeah, I did exactly what she asked me to do. I keep my room perfectly tidy as well, because it is where I spend all my time so it is my responsibility to keep neat.
I make my own dinner so I said I would go make it now, and she said something about how she was sorting the washing so she didn't have time to tidy up the kitchen and I said the I would tidy the mess I made during dinner. I started walking downstairs and she lost it, screaming that she can't believe I would do that when she just told me that she was sorting the washing and that I should offer to do it.
As I said before, I do what I am told when I am told to do it. I got upset because she had been in a bad mood all day and was now snapping. I said that I would have done it if she had asked, but telling me that she is doing it made me think that she is going to do it, not me. When I explained that she needs to tell me when to do things and I do them (as proved earlier today) she got even more angry, yelling that I am using autism as an excuse to be lazy.
Edit: Oh, she also says that I 'abuse' her. Not sure how, I was so mad at her saying that, especially with the way she treats me, that I just left the room and didn't let her explain.
This isn't an isolated incident. I have tried explaining to her before that it feels like she doesn't care at all about the diagnosis that SHE helped me get, and that she only "allows" be to be autistic when it suits her, like to make her feel better about the fact that I am shy. She doesn't accept the fact that I do have little things that are inconvenient. To her, it is all just an excuse.
I am trying to get a job so I can save money to move out. I can't deal with her every day anymore. I love her but I think it would probably be better for our relationship if I wasn't stuck in her house all the time. But of course, she won't "let" me. She is saying that I'm ungrateful for wanting to move out for uni. She doesn't know that it is partly because of the way she treats me, she thinks it is just because I want the 'uni experience'.
