My nephew is 20 and has aspergers. He’s living at home with his sister who’s 18 and an aunt who cares for them. He’s bright and works part time as a gardener. There’s a huge amount of conflict in the house about his “ laziness” to the point where he and his sister can barely talk to each other. He stays with us when he’s working and is much better - polite, cleans up after himself etc. When he’s back ho,e he reverts to staying in bed and playing computer games. He never washes up; eats all the food, leaves the kitchen a mess etc. His 71 year old aunt does the garden and despite him being a gardener he will never help. I talk to him about this and he just says he doesn’t want to. I’ve told how much other people have helped him which he understands but won’t change his behaviour. I’m trying to help them both improve their relationship and would welcome some advice on getting him to help out more and his sister getting off his back. She just says she hates him. Their mum passed away several years ago so feel they could be a good support for each other but looking unlikely. Thanks
