Hello all,
hope you all had a good weekend? Mine started friday evening driving into town with my husbaand son for my sons *** Sool class, unfortunatly during the forty minute drive my son fell asleep and on waking at our destination anounced he did not want to go in! i decided we would not push it, he could not explain why he did not want to go but was adamant he did not, saying he would go next week. i dont like to push him, the class is meant to be fun and it is the first time he has not wannted to go, so thought no problem we will go next week insteqd and do my food shopping instead, but no my husband being the mature person he is?! would not let it drop kept on pushing my son to go in and finally when my son insisted we were not going in ,my husband finished with ok then we will never go again!! this had my son at melting point on the verge of tears! i was asking my husband to stop beinng silly, i find these circumstances so hard you do not want to bicker in front of your child but with the constant disgreements as to how to deal with our son how do you not? i had to try and stop my husbands rantings which were upsettinng my son! eventually my husband shut up! and later that eveninng was convinced the error of his ways, but this is the sort of thing that goes on all the time it tires me out dealing with his moods and lack of understanding as well as trying to do what is right for my son. if they did not have good times together my decision would be easy, but they do have good times but the disagreements are daily and my son is starting to take sides and defend me in arguements which i am not happy with and it upsets my husband.
i do my best not to argue in front of Geai (prounonced jay my son was born in France), but sometimes it is impossible not to because i can see my husbands rantings upset my son before my eyes and i have to intervene, well i feel i do i think i am right, no i know i have to!
My self confidence is at a low, We have moved four times in five years all because my husband was not happy in his work, remote areas all the time to suit my husbands love for the quiet life, i do not work as town is so far away and difficult with school hours , have no one to talk to, thank goodness i found this site at least to get things off my chest.
My husband now understands he has mild Aspergers but cannot relate to my sons condition ? i thought he would understand more than anyone. i struggle to understand the mind of an Aspie and am not sure if my husbands actions are just stubborn and his nature or the Aspergers? it is really hard to put yourself in their shoes sometimes.
I have gone on enough for now, feel a bit better though
