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I need a new interest, something to get engrossed in, that involves facts. I need to get so obsessed that it overshadows my horrible anxieties. An absorbing special interest is probably the best anxiety cure for myself that I can think of. When I used to have obsessions, in the Titanic, for instance, I had fewer anxieties.

What things are you interested in? What do you find absorbing and why?

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  • Easy said:

    I disagree thet obsessions help with anxiety,

    I know that when I am playing I go into a kind of trance and nothing worries me but when it stops I feel guilty and stupid about wasting time and lack of self control.

    I think you would be much better off trying to sort your life out, learning a useful skill or earning money that you can use to improve your life.

    Advice I have been giving myself for years but ....

    Thats a bit of a contradiction..... If an interest/obsession blocks out everything for the duration of the engagement then thats a pretty good tool. It would be nice to eradicate bad anxiety full stop but to reduce it when focused on something is great. having the interest can increase self confidence and give a sense of achievement. Playing games may or may not be worthwhile, its how YOU see it. I understand that earning money and aquiring useful skills would be great but this can often be at odds with your situation. So whilst these things may be appealing they are not always easily achieved.

    I spend hours making electronic music. I sometimes don't want to do it and don't see the point and that makes me feel real bad. When I get into it though I am lost in it. Bieng a creative pursuit seems to add a degree of validity and when it goes well I don't see that I have wasted time doing it.

    Some peoples interests can lead to job oportunities (if you are lucky), relationships with like minded people and respect from your fellow humans.

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  • Easy said:

    I disagree thet obsessions help with anxiety,

    I know that when I am playing I go into a kind of trance and nothing worries me but when it stops I feel guilty and stupid about wasting time and lack of self control.

    I think you would be much better off trying to sort your life out, learning a useful skill or earning money that you can use to improve your life.

    Advice I have been giving myself for years but ....

    Thats a bit of a contradiction..... If an interest/obsession blocks out everything for the duration of the engagement then thats a pretty good tool. It would be nice to eradicate bad anxiety full stop but to reduce it when focused on something is great. having the interest can increase self confidence and give a sense of achievement. Playing games may or may not be worthwhile, its how YOU see it. I understand that earning money and aquiring useful skills would be great but this can often be at odds with your situation. So whilst these things may be appealing they are not always easily achieved.

    I spend hours making electronic music. I sometimes don't want to do it and don't see the point and that makes me feel real bad. When I get into it though I am lost in it. Bieng a creative pursuit seems to add a degree of validity and when it goes well I don't see that I have wasted time doing it.

    Some peoples interests can lead to job oportunities (if you are lucky), relationships with like minded people and respect from your fellow humans.

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