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Feeling the pain of others

Desmond79

Last night, at a Christmas Zoom Quiz for the Belfast group I attend, there was a woman on our team who's Son - from London - can't come home, as one of his mates has Covid. She was heartbroken, but I felt her pain ten times more. And I can't handle upset well.

Does anyone else feel the need to carry someone else's cross?

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  • I'm tempted to say this is how my autism affects me the most, certainly day to day. I just see people's pain, and carry it. It can really be to my detriment, like I'll have a *** day just cos i walked to town and saw people's pain. It can stop me prioritising myself, sometimes when my own reasons for being hurt are much bigger than someone else's. Sometimes I think it's cos I can't connect to my own pain that it's easier for me to experience others. A lot of the time I end up relating to another's perspective instead of my own and get taken advantage of. So yeah, I get it, it's hard, but I can tune it out too.

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  • I'm tempted to say this is how my autism affects me the most, certainly day to day. I just see people's pain, and carry it. It can really be to my detriment, like I'll have a *** day just cos i walked to town and saw people's pain. It can stop me prioritising myself, sometimes when my own reasons for being hurt are much bigger than someone else's. Sometimes I think it's cos I can't connect to my own pain that it's easier for me to experience others. A lot of the time I end up relating to another's perspective instead of my own and get taken advantage of. So yeah, I get it, it's hard, but I can tune it out too.

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